Unfaithful baby!!!!!

[MarmaladeSun]

Hello all. When DD2 was only a week old (3 weeks ago) I went to a ball with DH (against my wished but it had been planned for ages). My Mum came up to stay and look after DD1, Ds and DD2. I tried expressing, but it was hell on earth, so I gave in and made up 3 bottles of SMA. I called home half way through the evening, only to be told by my Mum that DD2 was on her second bottle already, and was REAAALLLYYY enjoying it, and it was obviously what she needed etc! I felt totally bereft, and almost as if my tiny daughter had betrayed me by being unfaithful! LMAO. Am I totally sad? By the time I got home, my dress was soaked through with leaking boobs despite wearing breast pads and I happily spent the rest of the night feeding her. She seemd equally happy to see Mummy again too! Has anyone else felt like this?

MarmaladeSun, I haven't had this expereince but I'm sure I would feel a bit like you did/do!

It sounds as if she was really pleased to see you and have a lovely long feed and cuddle when you got back - of course she was happy to see you!

I don't think she was being unfaithful, just taking what was on offer at the time when you were out and then loving seeing you when you got back.

experience even

Marmaladesun ...
I know just how you feel! When DD was 8 weeks old we gave her a bottle of EBM because DH got it into his head that she ought to get used to drinking from a bottle and if we didn't we would 'miss the boat'.
I too was gutted at how fickle my DD seemed ... she loved the bottle and guzzled it down like she had never had anything to eat before!
I was so upset that I didn't give her another bottle for a few weeks and then when we tried again she wouldn't take it and I was secretly really pleased .
She is now 6 months old and still breastfed. She will take a bottle if necessary but things are easy now that I don't feed her at night and I can go out without her ....
So, you are not sad ... you are totally normal!!!!

aha - that old chesnut - 'the baby drank ten squillion ounces - she must be starving'.

Heard this was to do with the little mites not being used to bottles. Bottles keep on giving milk as long as the baby is sucking on them, whereas on boobs the baby can do 'comfort suckling' without taking on significant amounts of milk. So she might well have taken in more than she meant to , as the milk just kept on flowing IYSWIM.

Or, it you aren't normal then I am not either

We've been mixed feeding for over three months now. Mindful of the fact that 'received wisdom' suggested that as soon as formula was brought in Dd would reject breast, I've been making a point of making sure that Dd carries on working at the breast and has properly emptied me b4 i give her a bottle (to maintain supply).

Can't say it feels like a vote of confidence if i misjudge the timing of the bottle and she goes mental at the breast... also that her babysitters reckon she's the most placid baby ever ( find her sitting with a greasy smile with her belly sloshing with as much formula as I would give her in two days - course she's placid).

However - the day she took her first bottle, felt like a stone had been lifted from me... she had rejected our first couple of attempts, and we were in trouble w.r.t. the feeding... was so relieved that I did not have exclusive responsibility for all her calories until six motnhs... she was definitely mummy and daddy's little trooper that day!

It's stressful to leave your baby. You don't think anyone else can look after them properly and then if they do you feel worse because you weren't needed. Your baby did miss you and you are SO normal.