DS is EBF but has never been a great feeder. Was IUGR/LBW. Lost lots of weigh initially despite being assured all was well feeding wise. Went private to have feeding assessed at 3 weeks and he had a 100% tongue tie which we had revised.
After this latch remained shallow but he fed much better and gained lots/much happier.
Introduced solids at six months and he eats well, self feeds mostly as prefers this. He has a sippy cup of water with meals. He started sleeping through the night at 7 months,
Recently he had a spell of night waking and had a cold so was vomiting mucus after milk feeds. DH started giving him water in a bottle when he woken in the night as he was coughing but bfing usually meant he was sick. He really enjoyed having water in a bottle and drained a couple of oz quickly.
Since then he cut a tooth and resumed sleeping through but has been getting fussier with bfing. Any distractions he wouldn't feed so it was always curtains shut, lights off, nobody talk etc. The bedtime feed he never seemed fussed about, DH puts him to bed but I've always fed him first and left them snuggling but he was happy to just snuggle DH and nod off next to him.
For the last two weeks he's completely refused the bedtime feed but whinged and kept signing for milk until DH gave him the bottle of water. I said to DH I was worrying that he still needs the milk so after the boob refusal he gave him expressed milk in the bottle. Anything in the bottle he downs hungrily and happily (we do paced feeding but he'd glug the lot in one if we let him)
Since yesterday he's refused the breast completely and wouldn't even latch on - just hits me away. I've been expressing and giving him the milk in a cup at mealtimes and just the one bottle at bedtime after trying to bf him. We had a long bath earlier and was hoping the skin to skin helped but he was too busy climbing/laughing/playing.
I feel really sad as I fed my other babies much longer than this and hoping this isn't the end.
Any advise welcome.