9 month old BF

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hi, just needing some advice really.

I EBF my 9 month old still. he absolutely loves it. but from day 1 we have co-slept which means me and his dad are struggling now with room and because he's still on me. our time is completely limited :(

anyway... I don't want to stop breastfeeding but would love to slow it down alot.

the problem is, he will not take a bottle at all. he never has. he just won't suck it. he plays with it. or sucks then spits whatever is in it out. even if it's BM. he hates bottles. so I have to keep him on my boob.
we have a cot next to our bed. it has the side down so it's like a NEXT2ME but it is a cotbed. so it's spacious for him.

he sleeps in bed with me, then I push him into his bed once he's asleep.
but because he is use to sleeping with me,he gets very unsettled easily and starts rooting. if i don't go to him with my boob he will root until he crys and wakes himself up.
so I have no choice but to keep him on bed with me.

he has a older brother he is 3. and i would like to put them in the same room but he wakes up like 3-4 times a night rooting then back asleep once my nipples in his mouth.

I'm worried I'll never get him off the boob and in his own room

please has anyone got any advice

thanks.

I found that by feeding plenty in the day, and moving them into their own room at night, it did cut down on night feeds anyway.

Has he always been like this OP or do you think the 9 months sleep regression is currently making things worse?

@Jilted he's always been a good sleeper. But he has always woken up rooting but just turns his head onto my boob. Now he's getting bigger it's getting harder. He's definitely going through some sleep regression as he's getting up at silly times at the mo.

The problem in putting him into his own room is ds2 sleeps in there, so he would wake him up.

Completley stuck what to do.

I thought my Dd would wake up the whole house when I moved her into another room but she woke far less and DS slept through anyway.

At 9 mths he must be pretty much fully weaned? I have ebf 3 (current baby 9.5 mths) and it's hard to transition if they are sucking for comfort not hunger. Have you tried a dummy?

My baby coslept & the dh was in the spare room, but we transferred to a cot (I slept in spare room so no boob available) then into his own room. I put formula (my boobs don't express) in a sippy cup in the day as he's not bothered by a bottle either. It's hard if you don't want to stop feeding but at some point you & dh do need to get back to normal.

Alternatively put him in another room & take a chair so you can settle him with boob when he wakes? You other ds shouldn't be too disturbed & will sleep through it once he gets used to it.

It's a choice only you can make - good luck x

Try a munchkin 360 cup for milk rather than a bottle.

I would move to his own room, you can still feed to sleep, but that waking up and immediately wanting a feed link is diminished because you’re not there. I co-slept with dd till she was 11 months, she was waking me up 8,9,10 times a night, so I moved her across. It’s not perfect! She still wakes once or twice, but it’s so much better than it was!