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Breastfeeding in retaurants puts other people off their meals

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babyonboard · 14/05/2007 08:19

wtf!?

A woman on bbc news now, with pretty strange views

'women should breastfeed before they leave the house, it's not fair on others to sdo it in public'

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cathcart · 14/05/2007 09:58

oh ffs! what a joke! can't get to the tv at the mo cos i'm bf, but that woman should know she shouldn't be saying that sort of thing on tv!

Boco · 14/05/2007 10:01

To be put off your dinner by breastfeeding you have to have some serious body issues. You'd have to be staring, imagining yourself sucking boobs? Imagining the taste of breastmilk? Whatever, they're the wierdos.

I would hope that someone with a very strong let-down would move the baby to one side at the right moment and squirt them in the eye with a perfect arc of breastmilk.

evenhope · 14/05/2007 10:03

My 8 week old is one of those babies who feeds all the time. So far she's been fed on 2 different seafronts and in a selection of restaurants. Nobody has ever said anything to me.

sniff · 14/05/2007 10:04

@ fio
I have turned her off it made me so cross

beckybrastraps · 14/05/2007 10:07

But breastmilk is delicious!

cathcart · 14/05/2007 10:09

lol boco! i could try that! i got my mum in the face once!

barbamama · 14/05/2007 10:17

I bf wherever I want to and if anyone had the nerve to tell me not to I would tell them to F off and get a life. It is about time this bs was stopped - it is illegal in Scotland and will be here too shortly so don't let anyone intimidate you. How bf in a restaurant is offensive but lighting up a fag which contributes to the early death of everybody else in the restaurant is beyond me - I know this is going too but still.

MarsLady · 14/05/2007 10:19

If it puts them off perhaps they shouldn't be looking and concentrating on the obviously scintillating company eating with them.

foxcub · 14/05/2007 10:23

I thought that women on the news had some very contradictory and disturbed views. She seemed to say its OK to BF as long as you do it in secret and hidden away

BF a baby is natural and is done all over the globe in public. Even in countries where women cover up their bodies, they happily BF in public. Seems its only strange repressed Brits who get so hung up about it.

BFing is hard enough (with lack of advice and support) without having other people put their sexual hang ups about the human body onto us by objecting to us feeding our babies in public

iota · 14/05/2007 10:24

we may be following Scotland's example - see here

LieselVentouse · 14/05/2007 10:27

Most people are discreet but I remember my aunt doing something hideous once in a Brewers Fayre which put me right off

cathcart · 14/05/2007 10:32

what did she do LV?!

MissGolightly · 14/05/2007 10:33

Liesel please tell more! I am dying to know what your aunt did?!

Bethbe · 14/05/2007 10:56

I bf everywhere, but do try to be as discrete as possible! Having said that, my idea of 'descrete' is just acting 'normal' i.e. still talking to the waiter, reading a book, drinking my tea etc. etc.

This woman is clearly an idiot for making her views known on tv, but to be honest I don't actually blame her for those views!

BF is not a common sight and until it is SOME people will have to deal with their 'surprise' and their ignorance maymake them uncomfortable!

If bf were more supported and more women were doing it in public, it'd no longer be an issue!

FioFio · 14/05/2007 10:56

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MissGolightly · 14/05/2007 10:58

ROFL Fio!! (I have to confess that once when we'd run out of milk for my coffee I did consider using breast milk. But then I remembered how disgustingly sweet breastmilk tastes and decided I'd rather have it black)

Cazee · 14/05/2007 11:03

Do you know what makes me laugh the most? These people who are worried about "body fluids" are all happily swigging away at the body fluids of cows.
I am really really angry about all this, and I think I am going to go on a militant breastfeeding rampage today in all the cafes I can, just daring someone to say a word...

Anna8888 · 14/05/2007 11:08

We all have our sensibilities. I have always breastfed in public places, without making a big deal of it.

Personally I find the sight of a baby with a bottle or a dummy in its mouth quite revolting... always makes me think of vibrators, which I certainly don't want to see anyone using in public.

nailpolish · 14/05/2007 11:10

Lowri Turner is poisonous, bitter and jealous

chocolattegirl · 14/05/2007 11:16

Last week I was in Lake Como in an outside cafe, when a young mum rolled up her top, whipped her breast out and latched her son on. Everyone else continued eating and drinking. By the time we'd left, the baby had changed sides and still the sky hadn't fallen in - life went on as normal. That's as it should be. If you'd laid on the floor and looked you, you might have seen a bit of flesh but no more than you'd have seen in a bikini top. Why should a baby go without food just because some people don't like seeing breasts used for their correct purpose?

dueat44 · 14/05/2007 11:18

Screaming hungry unfed dd would put them RIGHT off their lunch!

chocolattegirl · 14/05/2007 11:26

I did refuse to feed my dd in front of her paternal g/parents when they came around to see her and I stayed upstairs to do this - they didn't understand why as they had been told that I was bottle-feeding her which could have been done downstairs (but I wouldn't have disturbed her in the middle of a feed regardless of method). That's the only time I refused to bf her in public but she was only 3 days old so we were both feeling our way at the time.

I fed her sitting in the driving seat of my car at a service station once as the mums room was disgusting and just kept on going when I realised that a car full of young lads had parked right next to me. Luckily, they didn't seem to notice, were mature enough to take no notice or plain weren't interested in what was going on anyway as they just sloped into the service place itself. DD continued feeding quite happily .

foxcub · 14/05/2007 11:31

...as a caller from St Lucia just put it on Radio London, men in her family would be offended if she didn't B feed her hungry baby when it cried.

She added that smoking in public places is far more offensive

barbamama · 14/05/2007 11:32

These people are in the minority and are normally old gits, they'll be dead soon, who cares what they think. I have to say I was really militant about this issue when I was bf and almost dared people to complain - I had loads of comebacks lined up (none as good as becky's mum though) but in 1 year of bf wherever and whenever noone gave me any crap at all - I was almost disappointed. Only issue at the beginning was some pervie old man in Tesco's cafe who deliberatley sat in front of me pretending to read a paper (upside down, I kid you not) trying to catch a glimpse of my boob, I presume. I just refused to unlatch and when dp came he told him to move.

Everyone i know who has been in this situation has had a formal apology from the management of the establishment in question if any memeber of staff has passed on a complaint and it looks like it will be illegal soon so .....

In and around London is is a very common sight as well - and I have never actually seen a nipple or a boob really - mothers are discreet and the baby blocks the view anyway. Just last week I saw a lady in H&M at Bluewater browsing the rails with one hand and holding a bf baby with the other - to be fair she was Dutch I think and teh Europeans don't have this ludicrous issue but fair play to her I thought - wish I could have shopped whilst feeding!

barbamama · 14/05/2007 11:34

And these same gits are probably the ones who slaver over page 3 and I don't hear any calls for Jordan to put it away. And nobody is campaigning for people not to be allowed to go topless on the beach.

Hypocrites!

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