Thanks for the replies. Sorry this is long winded but here is our story....
DS is 6 weeks old and ebf on demand. From around 1 week old he has been extremely unsettled, he holds his breath, grunts, squirms, writhes and I could hear him gulping, often gagging when I put him down after a feed. He is very windy (both ends) burps are loud and sometimes accompanied with sick of varying amounts and poops are loud and explosive and have varied in colour and consistency over the weeks from the yellow with white seeds that you would expect from ebf baby to greenish - he often struggles to poop and empty his bowels. He has hiccups and sneezes a few times a day as well as rubbing his nose/face and I also noticed that his 'voice' seems snuffly.
My DD (now 3yo) was also ebf and suffered with reflux which was successfully managed with omeprazole and she also had cmpa which I managed by cutting out dairy from my diet. I recognised some of the same symptoms in DS so have stopped all dairy again in the hope that it would help him (this was 4 weeks ago but still no improvement).
He is feeding lots but often upset and fractious when on my breast. Despite this he is clapping weight on (11lb 11oz) and remains on the 91st centile on his growth chart). However, he is still unhappy and obvs uncomfortable and becomes upset when I try to put him down - this has got worse over the weeks and I am struggling to stay on top of things as I can't get anything done for nursing/comforting him. My mood has deteriorated and I spend a lot of time crying these days, beginning to resent baby and I am ashamed to say that I have held him at arms length and shouted at him to shut up.
I have done as much as I can in terms of seeking medical help. I have taken him to GP and after prescribing gaviscon then omeprazole and still no improvement even he is at a loss as to what to suggest and on two visits he has sent us with a letter straight up to hospital where we have spent agonising hours waiting around to be told that he is 'not poorly' and sent home. On one occasion we saw a Paediatric Registrar who told me that I'm feeding him too often and overfilling his 'golf ball sized' stomach which is causing the acid reflux. Quote "I don't want you to feel like I'm fobbing you off but babies have immature tummies and he will be like this for at least 6 months".
I have also taken him straight to a children's a&e after one episode where he was screaming so much I thought he might pass out. This resulted in an overnight stay and he was prescribed ranitidine and a formula (Aptamil Pepti) to use as a top up to give me a break if required!! I do need a break but also want to continue breastfeeding. During this visit to hospital I was also advised to cut out soya from my diet. Done a week now and still no difference.
I have spoken to HV about all of this and have also had the breastfeeding support worker come visit to check that I'm not making any catastrophic errors that are contributing to his discomfort - I'm not!!
I've tried warmer baths, tummy massage, 'cycling' legs, infacol, gripe water, dentinox colic relief, bought wedgehog reflux pillows. I keep him upright for 30 minutes as much as possible after a feed but nothing makes a difference.
The only thing I can think of is that he's intolerant to something else in my diet but honestly if I cut any other common allergens I may as well not bother eating myself!
Sorry for the lengthy post and thank you if you've read on to this point xx