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Infant feeding

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About to hit 6 months - DH this morning so are you giving up BF now then...

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Tapster · 08/05/2007 09:12

My daughter will be 6 months on Thursday. DH has been very supportive about me BF until this morning. When I got when are going to give up then, its 6 months now... Would like to have been congratulated about getting to 6 months. I'm not going back to work so there is no pressure for me to introduce a bottle. DH says he wants to plan "stuff", as we can't go out at the moment, well I said we can after 7pm after her last feed (I hate expressing and only get 1oz now a days so not an option).

I said I didn't know when I wanted to give up, not at least she is taking most of her calories from solids rather than milk. DH thinks her lack of interest in solids so far is her love of milk and told me to feed her less today so that she would eat her solids... arghhh...

I can't believe I am the last one of all our baby friends to be still BFing but I don't want to stop now. What is going out less for another 6 months going to mean in the whole scheme of things, its such a short time in your life. I think I want to go for one year, and then give up mainly to try and get pregnant again. May change my mind when teeth appear, who knows.

Arghh... All DH's family, give formula she will sleep better, you can go out, get some sleep etc....

There is so little support for BF in the real world.

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CorrieDale · 08/05/2007 20:38

I can only second what others say - you've done the hard part, the feeds will start to drop off soon and then the convenience of bfing really sines through. I don't think that BF has any influence on how well or badly a baby takes to solids. Some babies choose food over milk, some not. You don't know which you have until you try it!

I am also an aged mother and fell pg while still bfing DS. As contraception goes, it's rubbish!

CorrieDale · 08/05/2007 20:38

I am also an aged mother and fell pg while still bfing DS. As contraception goes, it's rubbish!

cylonbabe · 09/05/2007 18:29

saintbaby, i meant the ones who walk up to mummy and pull her shirt up demanding a drink

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Tapster · 09/05/2007 19:24

Well I'm quite glad BFing is not a contraception although frequent night wakings are acting as an effective contraception at the moment. DH is being a bit neglected and thinks we should be going out in the evenings by now. I would just fall sleep in my glass of wine so can't see the virtues of going out!

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whomovedmychocolate · 09/05/2007 20:08

Your DH sounds like a nut! Does he not understand that you are providing HIS CHILD with the best start in life and that by continuing to breastfeed you are reducing your child's risk of various maladies including obesity???

My DH said something similar and I told him I was keeping going till a year and until SHE wanted to stop. He can't understand how I can make that commitment (and yes it is a big commitment), but I can't understand why anyone wouldn't. So we've agreed actually, that they are my boobs and I shall use them as I see fit!

If he wants to 'plan stuff' tell him to plan it for 2008.

majormoo · 09/05/2007 20:26

Tapster it's a shame you felt your NCT group thought you were odd for breastfeeding to 6months. Peer pressure is so important. I fed my DD til she was 6 months and then gave up. Looking back only 2 of us out of my NCT group breastfed til 6 months. My DS is now 7months and I am carrying on feeding him. I am sure part of this is influenced my finding a 'Breastfeeding Drop In' group, where you can go and have a cuppa and a chat, and also by the fact that with their second babies more of my NCT friends have breastfed for longer. So I hope the LLL helps.

Even if she still had a bottle, she's need the 7pm feed and surely if you did want to go out, you could between feeds anyway?

hotbot · 09/05/2007 20:30

oh sounds like yuor beloved would like some of your attention, its sooo difficult when men also vie against babys' attention. You are doing a fantasic job,
i know you shouldnt have too, but try and get him on side, have a nice bottle of wine and a takeaway one night and try and chill together .Tell him you love him and appreciate all of his suppport. i know you shouldnt have to, as a mum you will always put your lo first, but i think the chaps do get a bit of the relationship .

Elasticwoman · 10/05/2007 14:58

Cylon - what's wrong with children who pull mum's shirt up? Whether or not public breastfeeding of toddlers is acceptable, in my experience it happens very very rarely, compared to the vast numbers of children who do bf past babyhood but do it privately. In other words it is quite possible to bf an older child without any one outside your household knowing, unless you tell them. And it happens more often than you think.

saintmaybe · 10/05/2007 15:35

Oh. All mine did that, cyclonbabe. I'm glad I wasn't aware of other mothers 'strongly disliking' them for it.

pampam · 10/05/2007 16:41

tapster, just wanted to say congrats on getting to 6 months. my dd is 11 months and still bfing 4 times per day at least.
Stop when you and she are ready, have a chat with dh about your reasoning and i'm sure he'll support you in the end. good luck and well done again, it definately gets easier from now on!

belgo · 10/05/2007 16:56

Tapster well done for bfing so long. What many people don't seem to understand is that many mothers really enjoy bfing. I didn't find it the chore that people told me it was. Tell your dh the benefits you get from bfing - for instance, I found it very relaxing and it helped me sleep more soundly at night. And it meant I could eat chocolate without putting on weight! I found these benefits really increased after the first six months.

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