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Infant feeding

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Broken woman. 4mo has used me as a dummy all night.

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Jellybabie3 · 30/01/2018 06:19

4mo is presumably going through tge regression waking every 45min to an hour since Christmas day. This last night he has basically chewed my nipples - doesn't even feel remotely like feeding, whilst playing with my pj top. He will not sleep without my nipple. I.am.exhausted. gone are the days of 20min feeds every 4-6 hours

Sigh.

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BergamotMouse · 30/01/2018 06:23

You poor thing. It will pass but in the meantime do what you can to get through - could you cosleep? Would he take a dummy to give you a break?

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Jellybabie3 · 30/01/2018 06:25

We dont want him to have a dummy. We did try once wnen desperate and he wouldn't anyway.

He's snacking. Not proper gulps.

So worn out. Fx ends soon

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ShackUp · 30/01/2018 06:29

My 20mo has done the same. I haven't had a proper night's sleep in 5 1/2 years!!!

MoodyTwo · 30/01/2018 06:32

My LO did this , and he just slowly improved... so waking every 45 mins, then after about a week waking every hour ... at a year old he's only just had his first sleep through.
Are you Co Sleeping? Attach LO cot to your bed (with one side removed) and just rest as much as you can x

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Jellybabie3 · 30/01/2018 06:36

Yeah we have a next to me cot hes just not interested tonight.

Its been a month 😞

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Rhodielicious · 30/01/2018 06:40

6 weeks of it here! (5mo) There have been occasional nights of 3hrs in cot (can count on one hand), then back to waking every 30min the next. We've had some 1.5hr stretches past two nights so optimistic...

callmybabybalonz · 30/01/2018 06:41

If you don’t want him to have a dummy you’ll have to be subjected to it.
You can teach him to accept a dummy if you wish to.

Don’t be a martyr.

betterbemoreorganised · 30/01/2018 06:49

I would get a dummy that’s what I did to get some sleep. The MAM dummies are very good and come in different sizes. I swap my nipple for a dummy as he’s nodding off.

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Jellybabie3 · 30/01/2018 07:00

Yeah I'm not keen for a dummy. Will just have to hope we are nearing the end....

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MoodyTwo · 30/01/2018 07:11

We didn't use a dummy as he used to bite me after 😡
Just remember it's all just a phase... your LO will get better , just may be slowly 😞

Yogagirl123 · 30/01/2018 07:13

Dummy or thumb, my DS2 was sucking his thumb in the womb, seen so clearly on a scan, so once he found his thumb, with a bit of encouragement, it made life easier!

He’s nearly 15 now and has perfect teeth and of course is no longer a thumb sucker so no harm was done.

Sleep deprivation is awful OP. I hope you find a solution and have some quality sleep soon.

Zerosugaroption · 30/01/2018 07:15

The “we” in “we don’t want him to have a dummy”, how are his nipples?!

ems137 · 30/01/2018 07:24

What's so bad about a dummy?

FWIW I've got a 6 month old who won't take a dummy and uses me as one instead. I keep trying with it because I feel like I'm slowly dying. He's my 4th baby and all the rest have taken a dummy, all have them had/have excellent speech and perfect teeth.

TeddyIsaHe · 30/01/2018 07:29

Oh god I remember this so vividly it still makes me break out into a sweat!

I used to rock dd to sleep in her pram to completely break the suckling to sleep association. Once asleep I’d transfer her upstairs and bf for a couple of minutes till she was back to sleep and then sneak off. I played womb sounds in the room as well which seemed to help.

Now at 1 she goes down in her cot awake and puts herself to sleep, so there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if it doesn’t feel like it now.

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Jellybabie3 · 30/01/2018 09:28

Hes not usually this bad. Hes been sleeping terribly since xmas but he was feeding. the comfort thing i am hoping wont continue

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Jellybabie3 · 30/01/2018 13:08

Sigh. Hes hungry all the time.

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Caterina99 · 02/02/2018 01:32

There is a 4 month sleep regression where everything goes all over the place for a few weeks. So maybe he’ll come out of that soon and you just have to ride it out.

I appreciate some people hate dummies, and some babies won’t take them anyway, but it was the best thing for my DS (now 2.5, easily weaned off it before he turned 2). I fully credit the dummy to him sleeping through from 6 months as he could put it back in himself rather than needing me. I’m using it the same for DD who’s nearly 4 months and I really hope she is the same. I don’t feed her to sleep. I let her use the dummy to fall asleep.

sycamore54321 · 04/02/2018 00:12

Isn't it supposed to be all about what the baby wants and following his leads? The baby clearly wants to suck all night. So either dummy (which is a perfectly valid choice), teach him to find his thumb, or you are stuck with the current situation, which sounds utterly torturous and makes you a wholly unnecessary martyr.

Sleep deprivation is not healthy for you and isn't benefitting anyone else.

Primarkismyonlyoption · 04/02/2018 00:15

Another one for dummy. Or tge odd bottle of formula to fill him up for longer. It was the only way i kept feeding mine for so long.

FartnissEverbeans · 05/02/2018 17:23

Recent research suggests that dummies protect against SIDS.

All my friends' babies were easily weaned off dummies when the time came.

Thumb sucking is much more damaging and difficult to stop. You can take away a dummy, but you can't take away a thumb

GrapesAreMyJam · 06/02/2018 14:05

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1stTimeRounder · 06/02/2018 19:55

Yes dummy all the way. They are indeed protective against SIDS. I'm never sure why there is a negative association with dummies. They help babies to settle and sleep and i for one am so glad they exist!

I think more people should know about the benefits if the dummy.

www.scientificamerican.com/article/pacifier-greatly-reduces/#

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