Friend feeding baby wrong quantities

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A very close friend of mine has recently had a baby. Her DD Is now three months old.

My friend has had major issues with her weight. She has tried to loose weight numerous times without success and is morbidly obese. Even before TTC she has always said she is worried for her child and hoped her child took after her slender DH rather than herself.

She was talking to me yesterday about her DD. She said she has already taken steps to try and prevent her DD being obese. I asked her what she meant.

She is formula feeding and has decided that instead of 4oz water 4 scoops of milk that if she feeds 4oz water 2-3 scoops of milk she will prevent her DD becoming fat.

Is this a thing? It doesn’t sound right to me.

It’s been over 10 years since my DC was that age and I know advice changes but I’m quite concerned she could potentially malnourishing her baby.

She definitely should be making it as stated on the box and not watering down. Dangerous for the baby and shows a massive lack of understanding on her part about what is healthy for a baby. I would strongly recommend she speaks to a HV or someone. Is her DH aware?

You’re right, she is wrong to be doing this. Tell her you’ve looked into it for her and that she’s should stick firmly to the instructions on the tin of formula.

It does state on the formula box not to add more scoops or use less scoops than prescribed. Can you encourage her to discuss this with her health visitor rather than take such actions herself? She should be going to every month to weigh her baby at a baby clinic or similar so they will be keeping an eye on the baby's weight as well. She is potentially harming baby's brain and vital organs development by not providing correct amount of nutrients.

Your friend IS passing her weight issues onto her child!
She needs help with her mental health to get to the cause of her own issues with food instead of underfeeding a 3 month old baby.