Some handholding, please

[rabaria]

So, I let DS self-wean, and he stopped age 3. I really liked how it all happened so gently. Husband and I separated early on in pregnancy of DD. She is now 19 months, and I do pretty much all the childcare ( he lives overseas and visits once a year).

I can't keep on with the breastfeeding - much as I want to , it is utterly exhausting me and mJing me tired and grouchy and resentful. I refused to feed her rod evening and it wasn't all that bad - a bit of grizzling but she drifted off to sleep with some singing.

I think I just want some reassurance that it's ok to stop and that I'm not being unfair on her

*making

And "this" not "rod"! Sorry - phone typos

She's 19 months. I assume she is eating well.
It has to work for both of you.
You have done a brilliant job doing so much. You have nothing to feel guilty about by stopping.

She eats loads - total opposite of her brother! I think I feel guilty because I let him end it on his terms, but I'm stopping her before she wants to stop.

I know, but it is really hard and it sounds like you have a lot on your plate.
She will be fine, she won't remember it. Don't beat yourself up over it.

:) thank you for replying

Breastfeeding is a 2 way relationship. if it's no longer working for you then don't feel guilty about giving it up.

You've done an amazing job! If you're no longer enjoying it, you should feel free to gently wean. Don't feel guilty in the slightest.

I fed my eldest til around 4. Basically led by him
I think my youngest is almost done at aged 2 but it has been me.
It's hard as I wish I could give him the gentle slow experience his brother had but I can't. I'm tired and feel overwhelmed and put upon. Weaning earlier has allowed me to do more loving mothering than I was when feeding.

That's what I'm thinking - that I'll be a happier and more loving parent without the stress of breastfeeding. I managed to get her to sleep with no feed last night, but woke up at around two to find her helping herself . . . co- sleeping isn't really helping I guess!