How to stop bf when pregnant advice please

[Snarf02]

i am bf my 18 mth old twice a day (first thing in morning and before bed), she has only been having these two feeds since being 11 months old. I am nearly 15 wks pregant and would like to stop bf her in the next two months. I was thinking of carrying on and maybe tandem feeding but my nipples are really hurting now and sometimes when she comes of she accidentally catches me which will be no good when bf a newborn 10 times a day. I feel quite settled in my decision but dont know how to go about it. We are both quite attached to bf and it has been a big part of our relationship. When i dropped her two feeds in the day she was fine for that but i dont know how she will be with these two.

Can someone help me on the following

Should i drop the morning one first and when i do my dh was going to take her staright down for cereal and i stay out of the way is this the best way to do it? If she asks for boob what do i say? Do i say that mummy has no milk in her boob in the morning?

I will then carry on with the night feed for a while before i drop it but do i just do one boob one night and one boob the next night til i stop?

Could i get mastitus when i stop the morning nfeed and then night feed or because i have less milk will my body be okay?

Is it likely that my lo will be stroppy with me for a while?

Sorry for long post but am quite nervous about doing this but feel its the right time

No advice but watching with interest as I am hoping to stop in the next couple of weeks with my 13mth old

Hi, I'm in a similar situation. Am pg, and have just decided to stop bf 11 month old dd. Yesterday was the last day. So as of today, I have all of one days experience .

Dd was down to 2 feeds a day, but occasionally I'd get up in the morning and give her breakfast instead of a bf. She didn't really seem to mind at all at that. The key to missing the morning feed for me was to avoid taking her back to bed with me as she associated my bed with feeding.

Tonight was the first night of no bf before bed. When I started trying to get her to have a daytime nap 2 weeks ago I deliberately created a 'making a beaker of formula then cuddling up to drink it' routine, so tonight I did exactly the same routine, she drank it fine, with a new story book for added distraction, then put her down as usual. It seemed to work.

I'm worried about norks turning into melons as she isn't feeding any more, but they're fine so far, and I think recently she has been doing more comfort sucking than drinking iyswim.

dd has been very clingy and recently, and has become far more cuddly with dh. She has also recently been ill and had to go to nursery full time last week so there has been a lot of upheaval.

Will let you know in a day or so if I'm regretting it!

Thanks was hoping to carry on morning feed for a bit longer but did my last mornign feed (was a lovely one) this morning so tomorrow is the first time she will wake up wiht out boob for 18 and a half months. Am nervous but it is just getting so painful now. If all goes okay will carry on evening feed for a wk or two and then drop. Feel really sad bout it and anxious but hopefully it will be okay. Will keep yo posted as well.

Glad your boobs r feelign okay, dont know how much i have in there as somethimes she feesd for 20 mins and other times is 5 mins. I will find otu tomorrow

hi snarf,

i stopped a couple of weeks ago and dropped the evening feed first, which in retrospect i regret, but was so lazy i really liked giving dd the morning feed whilst still dozing in bed

it wasn't as hard as i expected as she used to go to sleep whilst b/f. after a couple of days it was as if i had never fed her in the evening. stopping the morning feed was even easier as i just gave her breakfast instead.

good luck, and you'll enjoy feeding the next one soon

Just wishing you good luck - it sounds as if you are ready for this next step.

I weaned recently after extended bfing - 3.5 yrs and had forgotten about the possibility of mastitis - even though I was a world expert earlier on, getting it regularly - so well done for being prepared. I experienced some aching and pains - had the ibuprofen handy, and cabbage leaves too, to help relieve the ache. (It's very frustrating not being able to feed the ache away) Despite getting those first twinges, it didn't develop into full blown mastitis as I feared it would

HTH

It took ages to make the decision to stop, and I feel so sad about it, but I really don't want to carry on bf whilst pg. Today has been harder than yesterday . Breakfast was fine, but the milk before nap times was refused. Am dreading tonights bedtime feed now.

I'm going to be away for two days, without dd so I'm really hope that goes OK. Part of me thinks it ill be easier on her because it will be someone else offering milk, but I'm not sure.

this mornign went really easy, which made me happy and sad. Sad cause i missed feeding her but glad because i didnt have to go thruogh the pain and happy because she was not affected by it. She had her cereal staright aawy from her dad and i stayed out of the way for 15 mins and she has not asked for boob once. I am going to carry on bf in the evening before bed for next 10 days then hopefully stop which i think will be more hard for her. My boob feels ok as well that i would have fed off so that is a relief as well

I have breastfed all 3 of mine beyond 14 months and have stopped twice as pg with next child. The hardest thing is the feeling of guiltat stopping and the lack of closeness you have with them when feeding. You do have the next one to look forward to and your dd will adapt very quickly. I still miss bf my ds and i know he has forgotton. You have done well to keep going this long it will be fine and the gap you are giving means it should be pain free. You know you can carry on feeding both if you feel up to it - it is called tandem feeding. I didn't feel physically able to do that but it is an option. Good luck