How did you wean?

[PetalMettle]

Not sure if this is the right section but I need weaning help. Two year old has alway fed to sleep. If you unlatch him before he's fully asleep or if he wakes up being put down he goes nuts. This seems to be the suggested solutions. Being patted or shushed just seems to make him more angry.
He's quite Pinchy now and I just hate feeding. I'm exhausted as I do every get up and I never get an evening.
I hate him crying so I just pick him up and feed him.
He's not doing sentences etc so I can't discuss it with him.
I feel trapped

Is he drinking from a cup? That's the first step we took. You can also start replacing some of the milk with water or diluted fruit juice. Then we used things like yoghurt from a spoon and then other mushy things (Humous, pesto are easy options if you're pushed for time). Just start with a little. Sounds like you also need to practice feeding and letting him go to sleep on his own but that's another topic. NHS website has some useful info on weaning. Good luck.

Sorry. He does drink from a cup and eats solids well. I guess it's not weAning but stopping breastfeeding

Are you on your own? Does he wake during the night? If at night could DH/DP go into him instead of you so he doesn't expect milk? In the evening I moved the last feed before bed to the living room and then would take him up to bed so you're slowly disassociating between feed= sleep. I don't know what you've tried already?

No not on my own but have always done bedtime alone. I don't know whether husband would work - he certainly won't take reading from or rocking from me

'He's not doing sentences etc so I can't discuss it with him.'

At age 2 you really can talk to him about this. Make a plan (cold turkey or reduction of feeds, whatever you are comfortable with.Tell him the plan, be clear & confident about it. Explain his alternatives - e.g. snuggles/water.

He is used to the feeding to sleep so he will not be happy when it comes to the time you would feed him. He will cry, but try to see that as fair enough - it will be a big change for him. Support him through it but give him opportunities to drop off without boob & don't go back on it. You'll be in for a few rough nights but he'll be fine. Your confidence and belief in him is key!

We had a 10 day countdown. So I would say that Mumy wasn't going to have any milk left soon and she could have a drink from her big girls cup in a few days. Kept saying it everyday, then the night before said this is the last one, say bye bye to milk. She cried the first night, but not for long. That was two years ago and she still occasionally asks for it still.....

Thanks all.