OK I never thought I would be thinking this let alone typing it but I am finding feeding on demand hard hard work at the mo

[harpsichordcarrier]

sorry in advance for the self indulgent whinge.
dd2 is 16 months and is demanding to be fed almost constantly. I am finding it very draining, tbh, and I never thought I would say that . she is very physical and in the last few days I have felt myself becoming a bit irritated in the late afternoon, when she is pulling at my top for what seems like the umpteenth time.
Please someone tell me it's just a phase
please someone tell me why feeding on demand is a good thing.
obv I can't mention it irl because everyone thinks I am a freaky weirdo anyway

Am so sorry to hear this

I found it an overwhelming and draining experience at this age, to the extent that I could not bear to be touched because I had had to put up with so much more physical contact than I wanted

has not entirely worn off actually, I still slightly associate being touched with someone making unwanted demands on me

If I try distraction, she kicks up a fuss and then gloats when I give in. She knows what's going on

I found it got better around

erm

2 years old

Get some rest and have you got some time to yourself coming up soon?

Sympathies harpsi. ds had a phase (yes it was a phase) of this at 18/19 months, and I did find it hard. Felt terribly guilty for it, as we'd had such a struggle to establish bf, but it did get irritating - as it is even now sometimes, when he's lying in bed next to me very early in the morning and saying 'mik mik' and it's so sweet really but I'm so very tired and can hardly bear to move and I know it's going to be sore as I'm pg.

I have no advice with regarding the BFing - but you struck a chord with the wanting to treat your DDs the same.

Much as you want to do that, remind yourself they're individuals too. They are obviously different, you've acknowledged that, and one size doesn't fit all, however much you want to treat them the same.

I do sympathise with this, I constantly want to treat my three boys the same - and they're a lot older, but it's just not feasible for a lot of things. They need to be treated equally, but not necessarily the same iykwim.

Not sure I'm making any sense, lol, just rambling.

Is it possible that she's teething at the moment harpsi - I find that dd (13 months) tends to want to suck a lot more when she is. In which case, it would definitely just be a phase .

How are you feeling this morning?

hello everyone, thanks for the kind words.

have thought more about it, and I think I am feeling resentful that all she seems to want from me is to feed. she doesn't want to cuddle or read a book or play a game. and that feeding takes up all the time I have for her.
Of course, this is vastly inaccurate, it isn't like that, it just seems like that a bit. so today I have been focussing on all the other nice bits to try and alter my perception.
also, since dd1 gave up bf, she wants lots more cuddles etc than she ever did, so that all adds to the feeling of being a bit pawed.
I must say this has been hugely helpful to get out and hear your perspectives. ta

No solutions, but sympathies from another mauled mum....

It's tiring isn't it. Would love to be able to sit and have a conversation without people jumping up and down on my lap and shouting .... or on the other hand be able to get up and fetch something from the other side of the room without first having to detach feeding baby.

(Post typed whilst fending off dd2 who wants to type too)