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How to stop breastfeeding

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BlueKarou · 06/05/2017 16:23

My son is almost 15 months old and I have decided that I need to stop bf. This is mostly for medical reasons; I have recently developed a load of stress eczema, some of which is on my areola, and the constant feeding means it's hard to medicate and clear it up, so I'm itchy and in pain. I'm also finding that I'm getting more and more to the point of being 'touched out' as every time I sit down to play with him and his toys ends up with him asking for a feed.

We cosleep, which I am starting to wean him away from, as he feeds to sleep and then comfort feeds/suckles. I'm a single mum, so it's not as simple as sending someone without boobs to resettle him. Often it seems like the only way to settle him is to feed him.

I've tried doing 'don't offer, don't refuse' but It seems like he's just requesting it more (non verbally; just through frantic tugging at my top) I try offering him water or full fat cow's milk but he often just wants the boob. He'll then have water or milk after he's done with feeding from me.

Any tips? Is it worth getting formula to switch him to? He resisted it when he was little. His appetite varies, but he has vitamin drops, so am not too worried about any deficiencies. There are plenty of foods he eats, and he seems often to be feeding for the sake of it rather than guzzling down lots of milk, so I don't think he's starving, he's been at the 75th centile since he was 6 months.

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JugglingMum17 · 06/05/2017 17:56

Well done for breastfeeding for 15 months that is brilliant!

I weaned my son off by reducing a feed a week. It took a month but he really liked full fat cows milk which made it easier.

I used to breastfeed and feed him expressed breastmilk In a bottle so I have full fat cows milk in a bottle just so he was able to comfort suck also and I thought once he was off the breast fully then I would wean him off the bottle.

I was surprised at how well he took to cows milk although his tolerance was not that great because he began to have very loose poos so I had to try other milk like goats milk then soya milk for children to avoid the loose poos because it was causing nappy rash for him.

Maybe try one bottle a day but if you don't want to give a bottle just go straight to the cup. Or a cup with a straw.

You have said he has cows milk after a feed so if he does not have a full cows milk drink then persevere with a drink after his feed and increase the cows milk and reduce the breast milk feeds.

Hope you wean him off successfully for your sake.

WellErrr · 06/05/2017 17:59

I went cold turkey with mine. But swapped boob for bottle. They took to it very well.

Matchstickbox · 06/05/2017 18:03

Following because I'm still BF at 21m and with dc2 on the way I need to stop too.

JugglingMum17 · 06/05/2017 20:19

Matchstick I stopped DS1 at 12 months gradually and he was off at 13 months and I was also 5 months pregnant then. I was also worried that DS1 would want breastmilk after seeing DS2 being breastfed but luckily he has been fine even though he only stopped four months before.

They do say that breastmilk changes to colustrum when u r pregnant so your baby may notice a difference in your milk and may be fine with the change or may kick up a fuss.

JugglingMum17 · 06/05/2017 20:22

I was worried DS1 would not take to full fat cows milk or not being breastfed after being used to it for 12/13 months but he really did embrace it very well.

I gave him full fat milk then tried arlas filtered full fat milk, then tried goats milk and then finally soya milk for children (box with giraffe on front). DS1 embraced all the different types of milk!!! I was shocked!

PastysPrincess · 06/05/2017 20:29

I went cold turkey with mine. I just didn't offer at bed time and he was asleep in 5 mins. The next night he was cross but I persevered with it and he was totally fine after that. His night waking dramatically reduced after that too.

whoositer · 06/05/2017 21:40

Not wanting to hijack - but wondered how those that have weaned felt afterwards? I only BF morning and night now and need to stop soon, wondered if you felt energy levels rise and if you had any boob problems!?
OP, I went cold turkey with the night feeds at 8 months and she was absolutely fine - stopped co sleeping at the same time - think she was glad to be rid of me! I did do some sleep training though which I know not everyone is comfortable with.

BlueKarou · 07/05/2017 22:40

Thanks all, lots of really helpful advice there. The little blighter's gone and cut a tooth since yesterday, so it seemed a bit unfair to start refusing the breast. I've been off work this last week, so he's had more opportunities to ask for a feed and any semblance of routine has been lost.
When I'm back in the office tomorrow I can get to work on dropping feeds as I don't know if he'll take to the cold turkey approach - he can be very insistent about wanting a feed. Can definitely try to drop the morning feed, whizz him straight down to breakfast without too much faff feeding before/after getting dressed.

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WellErrr · 07/05/2017 23:22

Not wanting to hijack - but wondered how those that have weaned felt afterwards?

Massive hormonal rage for about 2 days, v unlike me, then felt AMAZING and full of energy for weeks! Hair and skin improved. 'Twas great.

BusyBee2017 · 08/05/2017 13:51

I was glad to have my body back but not fully because I was still pregnant. I enjoyed having a break from breastfeeding for three months before new baby arrived.

DS2 is now 3 months so 10 more months to go!

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