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Infant feeding

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Original poster

got told off for BF again..

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Jenkeywoo · 03/03/2007 20:42

DD is 11 months but not really interested in solid food - she BF's on demand and it suits us fine - some days she eats, some days she doesn't. I've just come back from the out of hours doctor tonight as she is throwing up etc and of course I end up getting told off for BF her on demand still. I know it makes no difference to the amount she'll eat but of course it is all my fault - I imagine world peace and climate change probably also rest on the fact that I dare to breastfeed my baby on demand still at 11 months.

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purplemonkeydishwasher · 03/03/2007 20:48

what
a
load
of
piss
!!!

Of course you shoudl still BF on demand if you want to! what the hell!!

my DS is 17mo and i still BF on demand. (good thing i re-read this post I almost put 'ds is 17' now that would be over doing it a bit!!)

fucking doctors.

thunk · 03/03/2007 21:11

my dd refused all solids till 10 mos and gagged on lumps till 13 months. i still bf on demand and she is 22 mos old.

and bf is the best things for throwing up.

misdee · 03/03/2007 21:13

WTF! if she is being sick, then breastmilk will be the best thing for her as its gentle on her tum.

yummybunnymummy · 03/03/2007 21:18

Hi,

I still B/F both my boys (2.75 yrs and 15mths) on demand amd am shocked that a medical professional could be so narrowminded. When our children our ill Breast milk is one of the very few things they can normally keep down.

Keep doing what you believe in.

Caligula · 03/03/2007 21:22

Every time you go to a doctor/ hospital/ any medical establishment or anything connected to the NHS, just take a whole load of WHO/ Kellymom bumpf with you so that you can hand it over to them and say "Actually, you're completely wrong about that, but I know that you GP's/ nurses/ HV's / other medical lunatic don't get trained on the ins and outs of bf, so this may help. On page 11, it tells you about x; on page 6, it mentions y. If you read it, you'll avoid giving misleading information to anyone else." Then smile sweetly and hope they'll remember not to fuck with you next time you go back!

KristinaM · 03/03/2007 21:25

i am still bf my 14 mo on demand. isnt everyone?

Original poster

Jenkeywoo · 03/03/2007 21:58

Thanks Caligula - great idea for the printouts. I saw my GP a few weeks ago as I was having dizzy spells and was really tired - got told it must be because I'm breastfeeding and babies shouldn't be fed after 7 months because 'they all bite don't they' - I left really upset but was still unwell and saw a different GP two days later who diagnosed labyrynthitis - an inner ear problem. Makes you mad doesn't it?! oh and the doc tonight recommended for constipation... sitting baby on a potty filled with boiling water 'just make sure babies bum doesn't go in the water' ... ok.

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hunkermunker · 04/03/2007 01:00

WTF advice is that for constipation?! Dangerous to advise boiling water anywhere NEAR a baby!

As for the bfeeding stuff...

I would actually report this doctor though.

Califrau · 04/03/2007 01:05

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SNOWBall4girlz · 04/03/2007 01:05

totally out of order imo
I am still b/f a 22 month old on demand as she shows no signs of stopping yet and I have ended up feeding her alot when she has been poorly as well as food it is comfort at 11 months she will need both
hope she ges better soon

Blu · 04/03/2007 01:57

Sit a baby on a potty filled with boiling water?
A doctor said this?
I honestly would report a Dr who advised anything so stupid....

welliemum · 04/03/2007 02:01

Report the BF one for being ignorant.

Report the boiling water one for being a dangerous lunatic.

Both of them sound like they need retraining.

yellowrose · 04/03/2007 08:37

Recently went to see a new (male) GP and he didn't say a word when I said I was bf DS at 2.8 - I nearly died of shock because usually they have something crap to say.

Tell the fools that the best thing for a sick infant is bf. If she is throwing up that would be exactly the sort of reason to bf as it is probably the only thing the poor child can digest.

Caligula · 04/03/2007 08:49

Boiling water?

Nutter.

Some of these doctors really ought to be retired. What a bizarre idea. Really, where did he get it from? What textbook is he referring to?

It just makes you wonder about where they think their authority comes from, doesn't it?

LazyLine · 04/03/2007 08:57

What happened to doctors being able to put aside any personal opinions in favour of helping a patient? Why on earth do they think that you should care what their opinion is about you BF? Especially when it is not a medical opinion they are expressing, but a personal one?

edam · 04/03/2007 09:18

Oh FFS put it down to ignorant doc who should know better.

edam · 04/03/2007 09:18

(FFS to doc btw, not to you!)

belgo · 04/03/2007 09:32

at the boiling water in potty!

Too jaded to be shocked at his views on bf.

sniff · 04/03/2007 09:57

my Gp moans at me when I g to but my LO is just not as interested in food as others she is 9 months and I still BF her on demand

doctors bah

derlor · 04/03/2007 10:34

Caligula, PLEASE PLEASE don't put us all in the same box. I am a HV and can assure you that i have had EXTENSIVE training on BF. Not only that but I BF both my own children for well over a year and plan to do so again as am expecting no3 soon. Jenkeywoo ignore the stupid OOH GP who told you off - very few GP's get any training on BF. Apart form that Caligula's advice on taking researched information is very good - any health professional worth their job should be receptive to this.

yellowrose · 04/03/2007 11:17

derlor - so good to hear from a HV here ! I am glad you know and have been trained about bf, so refreshing, welcome

melsy · 04/03/2007 11:31

Its so sad to read these threads , as some mums wont have access or dont know the the correct info (mumsnet!!/who/kellymom) and then go home feeling awful and confused about how they are caring for their baby.

Its great derlor that you are a well informed and knowledgeable HV. There are unfortuantely very few like you. I hope u are able to spread the word in your area of influence !

I hope that doesn't sound patronising , its just Ive had some right awful times with HV's over the last few years. One was wonderful and she's disappeared of the face of the earth

derlor · 04/03/2007 15:15

don't worry Melsy NO offence taken - my 1st HV that looked after my ds and i was shit!!! so believe me I know where you are coming from - makes me all the more determined to be everything a HV should be - hopefully apreciated by my mum's. New breed of HV's currently being trained seem to be much better than the stereotypical old 'bag ladies' that did this job - thank god this is annonymous or i'd get shot!!! I certainly check into this site regularly and constantly see HV's take a right slagging - sad really. hopefully this will change in time.

Caligula · 04/03/2007 15:26

LOL derlor, I know there are good HV's out there, the one I had with my first baby was brilliant - but she was also a trained BF counsellor, so actually knew about BF.

(All the rest of them mind you, have been rubbish! ) Interesting that you got loads of training on BF, that's very good news, are they putting more emphasis on supporting mothers to BF now? (And I don't mean supporting them in the sense of saying "Aren't you good for trying?" as my last one said, I mean in the sense of actually being able to give proper support or signpost to a BF counsellor?

Sorry if I sound suspicious, it's just that ime the worst midwives (not HV's in this case) I came across when it came to BF, were the ones who thought they knew about how to support me and actually didn't, because they weren't trained to. The best ones were the ones who told me they didn't know enough to support me properly, but they knew a woman who did, and directed me to the BF counsellor.

If they're now training HV's to properly support women to BF, that can only be good news. In fact, fantastic news. Is it really happening though? Tell us all!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 04/03/2007 15:35

report that doctor fgs!!!

and good advice from caligula re printouts.

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