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Breastfed baby screams all day at nursery

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 15:15

Hi, I'm looking for some advice on how to make my dd2 more content at nursery.
This is her third week there, she goes 3 days for about 5 hours and the other 2 days she is looked after by family.
When shes with my family they tend to either drive round with her or take her for a walk so she sleeps all day but its nursery thats a problem.
She refuses a bottle off anyone but me. I bought her the ones that are meant to be the shape of a breast but she'll still only have one off me.
Nursery suggested today that from tomorrow they should start giving her some solids which I have agreed with.
I can't stand to think of her upset all day. The nursery are been good about it, most days they resort to feeding her milk off a spoon.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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hairymclary · 27/02/2007 15:35

I don't think solids is the answer either tbh.
they should carry on spoon/cup/syringe feeding her if that's the only way she'll take it

JodieG1 · 27/02/2007 15:37

Agree that bf on demand is not a problem and will ask again, what difference will solids make? Made the point about the lack of calories further down.

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 15:37

I feed her a bottle of ebm if shes awake when we get there to try and get her used to it.
They usually get dd1 in the room to try and relax her at feeding time but that doesn't work either.

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 15:39

When they give it to her on a spoon she takes just under 3oz. Is that enough to keep her going for 5 hours?

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ScottishThistle · 27/02/2007 15:40

Do you not think the problem arises when ds2 is dropped off at nursery asleep & then wakes in a not so familiar environment?

morningpaper · 27/02/2007 15:42

I had to postpone going back to work until dd1 was 9 months because she would not take milk

Sometimes there is just no solution unfortuantely

What about paying the nursery money to your family to look after her until she is on solids and more settled?

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 15:43

They say she wakes up happy and will play and watch the other kids but the problems start when they come at her with a bottle.

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 15:45

I did suggest this to my Gran who looks after her on a Thursday and Friday but she said she couldn't cope. Shes 75.
Theres no one else that doesn't work all day.

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hairymclary · 27/02/2007 15:48

so if it's the bottle that upsets her then they should stop trying.
if she is happy until they try then they should leave her until she is actively wanting a feed.
then, they should spoon feed her

ScottishThistle · 27/02/2007 15:49

So your ds2 isn't crying all day then!

Perhaps you could give her a feed as soon as soon as she wakes & top her up before leaving, the fact that she's only taking 3oz at nursery is not a huge worry as I assume you're feeding her as soon as you get her home at 2:15?

Do you ever use the bottle?

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 15:56

They told me today she had cried all day. I try to express when shes asleep and give it in a bottle for the next feed. But this doesn't always happen.
The nursery try to stick to feeding times so I will tell them tomorrow not to try her till she wants something.
Thanks for all your replies.

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DizzyBint · 27/02/2007 16:01

she's there 5 hours?

i honestly would tank her up before you take her there. get them to cup feed her water to keep her going, then tank her up when she gets home. have you tried open cups like the doidy cup? these seem far easier for a bf baby to get to grips with. the action of sucking on a bottle is quite alien, but lapping from a doidy is quite straight forward.

i struggled with all kinds of bottles for dd. in the end i gave up on all fancy things that were trying to mimic the breast and went with a doidy for water with meals (this was as she was 6 months and starting solids) and an avent magic cup for milk. the avent spouts are not trying to be a breast and she took to them. normal teats she would just chew up.

another thing that helped was giving her bottles to play with, so she didn't see them as scary. and also putting handles on the bottle so she could do it herself..so no one is 'coming at her' with a bottle IYSWIM.

finally, have a look for a book called 'the cry sleep solution' by elizabeth pantley. a fab book for breast feeding mothers who would like to break the breast feed to sleep cycle.

BuffysMum · 27/02/2007 16:05

I'm inclined to agree with Dizzy to let her play with bottles, put milk in avent magic spout cup and water in a different cup and try a doidy cup. She may have cried today because she is unwell or teething. She won't starve in in 5 hours and when she is weaned the distraction of being offered food to try and cup etc may help her see food as something that doesn't necessarily come from mummy!

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BornToBeAPrincess · 27/02/2007 16:09

Thanks, I will get one of those cups to try her with. I feel much better now, I was thinking about stopping breastfeeding before.

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tron · 27/02/2007 21:22

if nursery is close to work then couldn't you negotiate with boss to pop over. By law don't they have to allow breastfeeding mothers time and a comfortable place to express milk etc - it's a similar thing to pop out for 20 mins or so t feed her

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