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How to bf in peace with toddler around?

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westeringhome · 12/12/2016 09:13

My youngest two, dd1 and dd2 are 23 months and 14 weeks. Dd2 has been demanding from day 1 as in frequent feeds, won't nap, silent reflux, won't sit in anything, hates the sling unless Hoover is on, etc. Needed a dummy early on as needed to suck something but was full up so wouldn't just suckle on me. The only thing that was going well (after the thrush cleared...) was breastfeeding but that has taken a nosedive. She is getting to the nosy stage so won't feed, as the slightest little disturbance puts her off then she cries because she's still hungry (I think) and then doesn't know if she wants her dummy or a feed. So she bobs on and off for ages, it is hurting me and she ends up screaming to the point of exhaustion. Whitenoise worked for a while as it dulled down the noise of my toddler but she seems to hate it now. Night feeds have increased as I don't think she's feeding enough in the day. But last night she even seemed to have breast aversion during the night. I'm exhausted. I think if there was no distraction she would do better, but how do I create a peaceful setting when my toddler is crashing around as she does not understand how to sit or be quiet. How do other people manage??

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westeringhome · 12/12/2016 10:10

I have tried giving the older one a selection of bits to puddle with but she's so excited by everything she just starts shouting, or waving things in my face and the baby gets startled and yells. As for the snack, she usually just mushes everything up then wails that it's all over her hands or 'broken'. If peppa pig is on (which it is, permanently) she'll start off on the floor and clamber up beside us and I have to stop her walloping the baby as she wriggles around so again the baby is startled and the yelling restarts. Thanks for replying and I'm glad to hear it will get easier. I like your suggestion of one to one time with the toddler, before a feed, I will certainly try that out, in the hope that she's bored of me by feed time and more likely to want to do her own thing! Thanks again

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Littleballerina · 12/12/2016 10:17

My dd used to 'feed' her dolly when I fed ds. Would your eldest play this game?

westeringhome · 12/12/2016 13:15

She did used to feed iggle piggle but then always came over and tried to get me to feed him and had a tantrum when I said "wait a minute, once the baby is finished". I do try to let her hear me say to the baby "wait a minute" just so she knows it's not only her that gets told to wait for things, but it is taking a while for her to understand.

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