Looking for opinions/experiences.
I've just returned to work full time. My ebf ds is 9 months old, and I weaned him from bf during the daytime over my last few weeks of mat leave, with a view that I'd feed him mornings and evenings (and all bloody night, of course 
) then at the childminder he'd have just food and water. I'm open to him having formula if the childminder can get him to take it (he's always refused bottles and formula with me and my husband) so he's getting enough calories while his solid food intake is still in the early stages (still a bit hit and miss).
So far my ds has only been to the childminder for 3 full days as he was sick last week so I had to work from home while caring for him which was fucking hard work and I'm never doing that again. They've managed to get him to take a couple of ounces of formula, which is great and I see it as a supplement to his food and morning/evening bf. However, both childminders (there are two working in partnership) have said it'll be easier on him to settle in if I stop bf altogether as he's constantly 'looking for boobs'. I assume they mean when he's tired as feeding to sleep is the only way I can get him to sleep at night and it's obviously very much a comfort thing for him. I think they've misunderstood my willingness to offer formula as an intention to wean him from bf completely.
I had intended to bf for as long as ds wants it, probably until he's 2 unless he self weans earlier. I didn't think it would be a issue and I'm sure in time he'll realise he's not getting any boobs at the childminder's and will stop looking! Also, as his food intake increases he'll need less milk in general anyway - it's only 3 months until solids should be providing the majority of his calories after all.
Am I being reasonable thinking this is okay? Aside from wanting to continue our bf bond I'm too lazy/cheap to start with the faff of formula, plus it'll be a battle to get him to take it from me anyway - and since he had a late diagnosed and treated tongue tie it's only really been the last 3 months that I've really enjoyed bf and don't want all those months of struggling to feel wasted! Equally I want to do what's best for my ds and if continuing to bf means he can't self soothe or find comfort in other things then I'll consider stopping. I just won't be happy about it...