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Original poster

Apparently bf babies are deprived of "Daddy Feeding Time"

35 replies

yellowrose · 03/02/2007 16:25

Why oh why oh why do I google when I end up reading things like this ?

this

This is my favourite bit:

"In my opinion, bottle fed infants get something that breastfed infants often do not -- Daddy feeding time. I know that my husband and baby are infinitely closer because of those 3 am feedings, and snuggling close together in the middle of the night while bonding. Breastfeeding does not allow this possibility, although I am not saying that fathers to breastfed babies are not close to their children."

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Pruni · 03/02/2007 16:32

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misdee · 03/02/2007 16:34

pfffffffffffft

SoupDragon · 03/02/2007 16:34

Oh what a load of b*llocks.

Greensleeves · 03/02/2007 16:40
RustyBear · 03/02/2007 16:42

What makes her think that Dad can't snuggle up with a breastfeeding mum in the middle of the night? DD shared our room while we were waiting to move to a bigger house & we'd all cuddle up together in bed when I was feeding her.

3andnomore · 03/02/2007 16:44

Arghhhhhhh ffs....lets just say that Breastfeeding is the normal feeding method, not the best...it's just normal...sigh!
Daddy feeding time...oh, what is wrong with just cuddling the Baby without any reason, or is that not good enough? Bathtime/Nappytime/Playtime....are those not equally good for bonding...!
What is so special about feeding a Baby? I honestly can't see it...yes, with bf it does give you a connection, but my experience with bottlefeeding is pretty much that there isn't anyhting special about it...but maybe that is just my personal experience...and at the time I was not hung up about breast or bottlefeeding or anything, I switched quite happily to Formula, but the feeding was not a special time for me anymore, because anyone could give my child a bottle, I suppose.
Yes, there are very good reasons for some women NOT to breastfeed and that is when it's fab that there is a pretty good substitute, but that is about it.
Sorry for the long rant.

malaleche · 03/02/2007 16:45

Apologies to formula feeders but I think this idea is just to make them feel less guilty for not breast-feeding...ok go on hate me

Original poster
yellowrose · 03/02/2007 16:49

Oh well, will just get DH to take some hormones and grow a couple of large man boobs so he can bf and bond with our son

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3andnomore · 03/02/2007 16:53

rofl...makes me think of the movie "meet the Fockers" and Rober de Niroes artificial boobs to bf his grandchild, lol....

PinkTulips · 03/02/2007 16:59

my dp is the first to snort in disgust when he hears lines like that so somehow i don't think he feels he missed out in not having to get up at 3am with a screaming baby

instead baby is pulled into bed with us and we all get a lovely bonding snuggle in bed.

lulumama · 03/02/2007 17:02

if the only way a dad can connect and bond with his baby is through giving a bottle, someone needs to sit down and talk to him!!

( i FF both of mine BTW )

bundle · 03/02/2007 17:13

parp

mummydear · 03/02/2007 17:18

Daddy feeding time ! Loads of time & ways for Daddys to bond with their children. My Dh is bonding right now with our two DS- lying on sofa watching Scotland getting stuffed by England ( 30 -13)

Pruni · 03/02/2007 18:03

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lulumama · 03/02/2007 18:06

was i being parped ? don;t understand....

my DH did not get up in the night to FF the children......

i think that we make the choices that are right for us, and if we are uncomfortable with those choices, that is when the guilt sets in

WigWamBam · 03/02/2007 18:10

Bundle was parping the subject rather than you, I think, Lulumama!

There's some right old bollocks spouted about feeding babies, isn't there. Whatever we do, someone will be standing by ready to tell us it's wrong.

Pruni · 03/02/2007 18:10

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lulumama · 03/02/2007 18:12

ok ! thanks ! i didn;t think i was being particularly contentious...!

bundle · 03/02/2007 18:41

sorry lulu. not you

lulumama · 03/02/2007 18:42

s'alright bundle !! thanks x

moondog · 03/02/2007 18:58

Formula feed by all means if that is your choice but spare us this shit.

poppiesinaline · 03/02/2007 19:46

I bottle fed DS1, bf DD and bottle fed DS2. DH says he did like it when I didn't bf, cos he felt more 'involved'. He says there is something special about feeding a baby.

Not that thats a reason not to bf of course, or that dads can not bond by other means... but just saying there is another side to the coin.

funnypeculiar · 03/02/2007 19:51

Of course it's not a reason NOT to bf, and of course it is bleeding easy to bond through things other than feeding (ur, d'uh) ... but I think it can be a nice thing about ff. DS never had bottles. DD does - dh was soooo excited to give her her milk. He would rather I'd been able to carry on exclusively bf, but it hasn't worked that way.

Come on, admit it, there's something utterly utterly lovely about it just being you & your lo at 3am, and what they want is some lovely milk and you have the power to give them what they want and make them feel lovely and happy and cuddly... of course that's a nice thing for a parent to feel.

lulumama · 03/02/2007 20:08

don;t understand the eye roll here moondog..we were all agreed i thought !

pistachio · 03/02/2007 20:15

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