HV advise doesn't sound right....

[NaturalRBF]

So visited a HV last week. She said a few things that I'd like to ask advice on?

1. Apparently by 12 months all babies sleep through the night (!?)

Our DD doesn't and apparently this is abnormal? None of my friends DCs did/do at this age and we all have different styles and routines?

1. Also I'm still breastfeeding- apparently I should stop now as its not doing anything for her?

Can anyone tell me the HV is ill trained or whether I am a shit Mother for having a child that doesn't sleep through the night and is still breastfed???

And there are loads available!

Glad you've complained

I complained about a hv when I went for ds 6-9 month check. He was about 7 months at the time and still bf as well as starting solids.

Hv asked me how much milk he was taking. Told her I didn't know as was still bfing. She said I should stop bfing as babies need bm only until 6 months. Asked her what she meant and she pointed to a poster behind her saying 'babies should have bm only until 6 months' meaning don't give them solids before 6 months.

I pointed out that is what it meant but she still wouldn't have it. Said I wasn't meeting ds needs and she wanted to see me again to discuss how much formula and food he was getting in 3 months time to 'update her records and prevent further interventions'.

I reported her to the hv offices and to my doctors surgery. They contacted me to say she would receive further training.

Haven't seen one since apart from ds 2 year check at nursery.

If "normal" kids always sleep through by 12 months then my kids are abnormal! Bloody HV throw out stats and milestones that make Mums feel like shit without even realising sometimes. You know your child best, you know what your child needs.

Andbabymakesthree That might be it. Tbh we brought it all when I was pregnant so I know it's the next step up as I brought it all at once.

Honestly I'm shocked by how they also seem adamant on bashing women when they are at their most vulnerable. I want to do the best by my DD and it's put me right off asking any further questions for further DC. They'll be told to fuck off