Help 11 week DD won't take from me this evening!!!

[mimpim]

What do I do!?
Grandparents were up this weekend and I let them feed her from a bottle for the three nights they were here, thinking nothing of it. Now she won't take a thing from me and greedily drinks down from a bottle!
WHY and what shall I do???????

She gets the milk more easily from a bottle than you.

Lie down in bed with her, allow her free access to your bare top half, lots of skin to skin contact with her and allow her to come to you without making her.

Alternatively have a bath with her (make sure there's someone with you to pass the baby to) and the same applies - warm bath, lots of skin to skin and let her nuzzle you - don't force the issue.

And don't give her a bottle!

Hopefully someone who knows about this will come along soon just wanted to bump it for you. I think lots of skin to skin is what's suggested hopefully someone will be along soon

Does she latch on to your breast and then come off within a few seconds frustrated? Or will she not latch on at all? If it is the first, then it may be that she is unwilling to wait for the milk ejection reflex (otherwise known as letdown) to happen as she has become used to the milk flowing from the bottle as soon as she sucks. If this is the case, you can help her come back to the breast by expressing at the beginning of the feed just enough to get the milk flowing and then immediately latch her on. She will then be "rewarded" on first suck and is more likely to stay there.

If she is refusing to latch on at all, then I would agree with the people who have said that you need to get her relaxed around your breasts.

Did she breastfeed during the day when they were here?

Cuddle her skin-to-skin and let her decide for herself when she wants to attach to the breast. Don't give her any more bottles.

Totally agree with the other posters. I had to mixed feed my DS for the first three months and he would get lazy and muck around, not attaching then guzzle a bottle of either EBM or AF. I had to be a bit mean with him and just stop the bottles.
The bath idea worked brilliantly for me when I was trying to get him to attach - he did and he loves swimming now.
And a babymoon is good where you stay in bed with your DD with no top on and let her feed whenever she wants (and catch up on some sleep). I don't know if you co-sleep, but it's worth a try because I think 11 week olds still love to feed at night.
I'm sure she will come round, realise how daft she is being not to want milk directly from her lovely mummy.
After a rocky old start my DS is now 25 months and still bf.

Oh God! I have screwed up!
I gave in and gave her the bottle.
She was feeding from me all day when they were here (they left this morning) and she fed from me today but she was on and off like a yo yo during each feed. Worse for that on the left, though that has been going on for a while, but it was as bad on the right today.
Tonight she bagan to take from me but the relflex was not happening so she got frustrated. Eventually she wouldn't even try at all! Thats when I gave up.
In my defence she was really screaming, as if in pain and I got all upset and confused.

I think I messed up entirely, cos I gave her a feed at 8 which is normally bath time but I didn't notice the time, then I tried to feed her at about 9.15, so the let down was way slower than normal, hence the frustration.

What can I do to rectify this tommorrow?

I only let the grandparents do the night time feed for 3 days, I think in my haste for help I didn't say that, oops.
So this is only a problem for this one feed, so far.
But I am frightened that she will refuse to take from me, at all, at night now???
Also I am leaving her with other Grandparents for a overnight stay this weekend. I was frightened before, now I am terrified.

Can't do a bed in tommorrow, need to go to my mothers cos she is making the outfit for this weekend. Oh, god I am such a whiner!

mimpim - I think you are worrying unecessarily to be honest. If she was feeding from you the rest of the time she should feed OK at night. Perhaps she just wasn't hungry. Don't be fooled by the fact she took the bottle - babies invariably suck the teat because it is something different. Just don't give her any more bottles from now on until she is sorted out. I personally would not have her away for an overnight stay at this point since the bottles she has had have put her off. I would leave that for a bit longer.