Every feed is painful

[KaluzaKlein]

Help!

Ds is eight weeks old. From the start feeding has been so, so painful. There is no position that isn't agonising to nurse in. I've googled, I've seen the specialists at my local hospital- nothing is helping.
They agree he has a shallow latch but can't see how to fix it. Every feed is like him trying to pull the nipple off and rasping it with his tongue. It hurts during feeds and for hours after (constantly to be honest.) they checked him for tongue tie (none) and me for infections (none.)

I want to continue breastfeeding but I think I'm going to end up with permanent damage if he doesn't latch properly.

Any ideas? I feel like I've tried everything :(

The hospital specialist said ' your anatomies are incompatible' :( I don't know what they meant by that...he does have a small lower jaw (so does his dad) but it's not extreme.

Dh is telling me to stop torturing myself and switch to bottles. I feel like a total failure and am being treated for severe pnd.

Formula is NOT poison!! X

You have done really well considering the pain x

You are doing so well to have got as far as you have, and it is entirely for you to determine if you carry on or stop, the only requirement in this whole baby wrangling business being to feed the baby, however best that works for ALL involved. But I wanted to share my own experience. DD had an INCREDIBLY shallow latch - and she would latch on by just sucking my nipple into her mouth (like spaghetti). It was agonising and I dreaded every feed as it became so painful, and she was feeding so frequently I never got chance to recover.

Nipple shields saved us - it gave me chance to recover from the damage she'd done, and her something easy to latch onto while she got herself sorted.

I got mine off amazon, the medela ones. Had one in use and one sterilised ready to go in the little pot - sanity, boob and feeding savers. I just wish the HV and midwives had suggested them earlier.

Bxbyxcu

Op so sorry about the garbled message that was my 13mo who decided to post on your thread

Though I would just like to add my support and sympathy. I had this pain with my first (posterior tongue tie) and it was very sore but probably not as bad as your case cause her latch was ok - I remember the hell of dreading feeds though. We got it snipped at 14weeks though by then the pain had improved quite a bit.

My second has always had a very poor shallow latch and drags the nipple - but there's not been any pain for whatever reason. Sometimes things Can't always be reasoned out.

I so hope you get some sleep and a chance to heal a bit. In your shoes I know id be trying a few formula feeds to be honest. If you're keeping up at least some breastfeeds put the lansinoh on before as well as after.