Mine were tube fed every 4 hours in hospital so were in a sort of routine when they came home.
I wrote down who I fed and when in a book. I then made this into a feeding schedule based on when they liked to feed. After 6pm, they fed pretty well constantly and this helped at night. The entire schedule was skewed towards getting them to bed by 8pm and me to bed by 10pm
This also enabled us to get out to a toddler group or friend in the afternoon.
If one woke about feeding time, I fed and winded her and then woke the other and fed her (during the day). If they both woke, then I fed the first one and rocked the other one in a chair with my foot, swapped the fed one for the unfed one, then did the same for winding (praying that there would be no sudden vomiting).
The first few weeks were constant feeding, changing and changing sheets. Family visitors helped with meals, my toddler and held babies and winded them.
I let them do their own thing at night, kept a nightlight on by the changing mat so I did not need a light, and only changed them if necessary.
My expectations were very low, as I had the baby from hell the first time, with regard to sleeping and eating. My twins slept through the night before he did
. We have lots of pictures of sleeping babies 