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DD 10 weeks refuses bottles...going back to work after Christmas

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cherrypez · 03/11/2015 11:09

First of all, I know I will be going back when DD is only 18 weeks old, but needs must, I'm the main breadwinner, I've made my peace with it. The issue is that I'm not great at expressing, I find it uncomfortable and stressful and I don't want to waste precious mat leave stressing about it (not that I have time to anyway, I have other DCs and a velcro baby). I will be expressing when I become engorged after my return to work, and possibly at lunchtime, but up until then I won't be, so can't build up a store.

DD was quite slow to gain weight, ended up being readmitted twice due to losing weight, but is now, although on the bottom centile, gaining slowly but steadily. She has just reached 8lb 4oz at 10 weeks old! I was initially not keen to top up with formula, but when she reached 6 weeks and was so tiny still I decided that one bottle a day might be a good thing, and coincidentally I had a dentist app, so gave eldest DD, 18, a bottle of Aptamil for baby and went. Baby refused the bottle, but I thought perhaps elder DD was too quick to give up or baby didn't like Aptamil, and forgot about it for a while as she was gaining weight on HV's target.

Fast forward to now, another dentist app, thought I'd try her myself on Cow and Gate in case she still wouldn't take it, as elder DD is happy to sit in waiting room with her while I have my filling if that's the case, so I'm away only a few minutes. Baby gagged at the taste and refused the milk, actually getting really upset in the process (one of those heartbreaking, sad cries). Obviously it's not a problem for today, or until January, but I'm now desperately sad about leaving her hungry and sad, whereas before I was ok with leaving her with our lovely CM.

Any advice, please? Is there a magical milk I haven't tried? Not to drip feed, we are waiting for a paed appointment about her poor weight gain and smelly wind, HV wants to keep an eye. All metabolic disorders were tested for in hospital. By the way, it's not the bottle itself that's the issue, as she had expressed bm in the hospital, and they sent me home with a few of their bottles to use if I wanted to pump. She guzzled down the bm in the bottle.

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Dixiechick17 · 11/11/2015 08:29

Are you giving the formula cold? My DD will only take formula when it's warm at the moment as breast milk is warm. Also I know you aren't keen on expressing, but if you express a little each day you can mix it with the formula and gradually increase the amount of formula until she takes just formula.

trilbydoll · 11/11/2015 08:36

DD2 was readmitted for losing weight, we were doing top ups etc - fast forward to 5m and she won't take a bottle either. So frustrating.

We've had a bit more success with SMA ready-made, possibly because that's what she had in hospital. Have you tried expressing to see if she will have breastmilk in the bottle, ie making sure it's definitely the formula that's the issue?

MummaGiles · 11/11/2015 08:41

I'd agree with trying to warm up the formula a bit, see if that makes a difference. It is a good idea to get someone other than you to give the bottle as you've been doing because if you do it all she will want is the boob. And as pp has said, try mixing some expressed milk with formula if you feel up to expressing, just to get her used to the change in taste.

At least you know it's not the actual bottle that is the problem, just the contents and that should be more easily fixed than if it were the other way around.

Buttercup27 · 11/11/2015 08:43

Would she accept cup feeding rather than bottle? It's a bit messy but we did it with ds when he was readmitted with weight loss. It was a food transition onto bottle feeding.

Parietal · 11/11/2015 09:16

pick a brand of bottle & formula. doesn't matter which one.

offer baby some warm formula at the same time (e.g. after morning nap) every single day for at least 2 weeks. If baby refuses the bottle, don't push it too much but wait about 30 mins with other activities before giving a feed. if you can have someone else offer the bottle, that is great. But my DD would only take a bottle from me at that age.

keep going and eventually the baby will take the bottle.

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