Desperate to stop breastfeeding. Any tips?

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Hi DD is 18 months and I am pregnant with DC2. Ever since I got pregnant I have hated breastfeeding. It feels very unpleasant. DD still.feeds a fair bit. I am clueless how to stop. I tried distracting but as soon as she sees me sitting down she wants to feed and gets very distressed if I refuse. I tried the dont offer don't refuse thing but tbh she doesn't need offering she demands it a lot and this has gone up.in the last few days

Any help would be appreciated

I wonder if part of the problem is good old fashioned concern that every first-born has to cope with? DD probably worries about not being your baby anymore, the new baby taking over & you not loving her anymore.

When I was expecting my 2nd & having problems with my 1st my Grandmother asked me to consider how I would feel if my husband came home & told me that he was going to have another wife but he promised that he would love me just the same and that I would love the new wife....

Not a lot of difference from the child's point of view!

I breast fed my 1st son for 22 months, the 2nd for 18. By 18 months they were both pretty-much only having a bed-time feed.

You don't say how many feeds your DD's having, but assuming that you are down to one or two a day...

I would suggest that you both go out to get a special (non-breakable) cup for DD's bedtime drinks. Or she may like to use a baby's bottle and continue being your baby while she gives up the breast - you can wean her off that later. I would suggest that she drinks warm milk cuddled up on the bed with you (wearing a button-up top so she can't wriggle in & latch on - I've been there!) whilst she has her bed time story. She can then clean her teeth, back to bed for cuddles, a chat about the story & a little breast-feed.

Maybe also lay-off too much talk about baby for a while?

Good luck XX

She is pretty much non verbal currently and only 18 months so I don't think she will b picking up on baby stuff?

She feeds 2-3 times in the day and once at night to sleep. I was hoping she would self wean but no such luck. She is actually feeding more now. She gets very upset if I try to use a cup or bottle.

This is actually "a thing" ... It's called nursing aversion :)

I think the theory is that it's a mechanism that evolved to make you wean no. One in time for no. Two.

I have no advice on how to resolve it but just wanted to say it's normal!

That makes sense skiotonless. It feels like something is crawling under my skin every time she sucks.

Perhaps your midwife could help? Good luck. XX

Breastfeeding network have a brilliant free helpline they can help with aversion and weaning tips :) xxx on an encouraging note, I've just weaned my 20 month old daughter and honestly a month a go.I would have said it was going to be impossible e was such a Bobbie monster, but it's gone ok :) hope things get easier soon aversion is really hard!!

Thanks Oh little pea will give them a cal

Leave your dd with her dad and go away for a night or two. Worked for me.