B feeding night vs day

[MusicMum18]

Hi,
Please help me, I have just had 2 hours of nightmare. I've been bf with nipple shield until a few days ago when lo ripped them off and bf without. I though great! But then I found that over the last few days she feeds at night perfectly but then during the day when I offer she screams, wriggles and tries to jump out of my arms.

It really is so distressing, just now she screamed when I offered boob, so offered her exp from bottle, then after shed taken 6oz I offered boob, she sucked for a few minutes then fell fast asleep. Meantime I'm sobbing away, and feel that she hates me. I know she doesn't as she's only 5 months old. But it's hard not to take it personally.

It's been such a struggle to get to this point and I don't want to stop.

I've tried bottle feeding her away from me so she doesn't get the closeness, thinking she might bf and want the comfort. I've tried using a bf blanket. Tried lots of skin to skin. Tried no distractions, calm music. Wearing same top to bf in. Tried feeding early before she gets too hungry.

At night time she goes on no problem.

Is this just a phase?

What should I do?

At the moment I'm thinking about offering boob, then expressed or formula, then expressing myself to maintain milk supply. But I don't want to put myself through all that if she's not going to go back to boob?

How likely is it for babies to go back to boob? Don't know whether to persevere or not?

Has anyone else struggled with this? Please help me someone as I am so tired, last night I woke her 3 times to feed her with the aim of not having to feed so much and have to suffer the crying fits during the day. Not sure if this is a good idea as it's making me exhausted again.

Any help really gratefully received as I'm really struggling!

Your DD doesn't hate you

I had this with my DD. I'm pretty sure it was oversupply /fast letdown. My DD was smaller, but I notice you've used nipple shields until now - I think maybe your letdown and supply is coming a lot faster than with the shields and she's struggling. My DD was calmer at night too, I believe letdown is less at night.

If you want to keep bf'ing, I just persevered until my supply evened out and DD got used to it. I was advised to block feed (not keep switching sides) as well. Good luck.

Is letdown to do with amount expressed as I don't seem to be expressing much at the moment.

If you don't feed during the day tho presumably milk supply drops? Did you express to maintain supply?

I'm thinking of offering boob, then bottle feeding expressed or formula, then expressing myself. Hopefully in time she will come back to bf.??!!

Letdown is when your milk starts coming out, after the baby does the first quick suck-suck-suck-suck. My milk sort of sprayed out in the early days.

Expressing isn't very good for telling how much milk is coming out, I could never express much but DD did just fine :) I only ever fed directly because I could only manage to express about 1oz in half an hour with an electric pump. I kept feeding in the day time; if my breast got too full with big gaps between feeds it made it worse because then the milk came out even faster.

Hope you don't mind me asking but did your dd refuse to bf during the day and take at night? How did you overcome it?

I'm thinking of offering boob, giving bottle then expressing to keep supply up. Giving it a few weeks till she (hopefully ) returns to boob during the day.

Should I try anything else to get her to feed during the day? She just screams her head off every time I pull her close.

She hasn't got a cold has she? I know it seems random but DS was similar at one point and he was full of cold. I think the bf position was making his ears hurt because his sinuses were all clogged up and did read that this could happen on t'internet. He also happily took a bottle. A day or so later he was back to normal.

Yes she's had a cold plus teething pains on and off. It's just strange how she takes when asleep but then not at all when she's awake in day.