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Infant feeding

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should i give up breast feeding?

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ghostspirit · 06/09/2015 16:48

my baby is 20 weeks i have fully breast fed him since birth. But he does not seem to be happy with what hes getting. its said that breast milk does not run out. but if i squeeze my breast at start of a feed milk will come out, he will feed for a while then he becomes frustrated i check again and i cant get any milk out at all.i move him to my other breast but thats not enough either. during the day hes on the breast pretting much all day. then when it gets to early evening he will sleep for about 4 hours then he wakes and takes a really good feed where hes feeding really fast and gulping...then from about 2.30/3am he wakes about every 45-1hr until about 6.30 am.

if i could find away of pruducing more breast milk so baby is happy then i would..

i bought bottles and formula today and i felt like crying.

weight wise hes on 25th centile. which hv seems ok about and im not worried.

i just need sleep. i have other children so cant sleep when he does.

i have tried expessing but i cant.

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ghostspirit · 07/09/2015 07:59

yes it feels like the pattern is wrong. i know there is no pattern as such but i just need some sleep :(

it could be a case that im feeding him at night when he does not need to be i guess. i just automatically do it. in the day he defo wants it he kind of throws him self back when im holding him. but when in bed he does not do that.

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ghostspirit · 07/09/2015 08:04

oddity it does not feel like a stage though. as hes been like it since birth :/ its not like theres a couple of weeks or so where its ok then. there is a lots of waking...its just all the time :(

i guess i will just plod along and hope :/

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tiktok · 07/09/2015 08:04

He may well need to feed at night. He may not have to hurl himself at you because you are there:)

drinkscabinet · 07/09/2015 19:36

Don't feel bad about feeding at night, you're cosleeping and making it as easy as possible. Forcing a baby to nightwean before they are ready results in a lot of very exhausting nights.

Agree with PPs that teething might be a factor, DD2 (who was in other respects was a dream baby) turned into a boob monster when teething and for each set of teeth that came through I had a week of a baby attached to my boob all night. If I hadn't BF I don't know how we would have coped.

TheEagle · 07/09/2015 19:41

Can you go to bed when he does and get some sleep then? I know you've other DC so it mightn't be possible every night.

It's a cruel cruel phase and I'm in the middle of it with my twins too. I go to bed and sleep when they do. My DH does bedtime with our toddler.

What's keeping me going is the knowledge that it will pass and we'll be on to something else.

They're teething too and I honestly couldn't face pacing around with them in the night to soothe them - boobs are so much handier for that.

Good luck, hope you get some rest soon.

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ghostspirit · 10/09/2015 15:38

wow eagle twins im would be finding it impossible if i had twins.

his dad comes to see him 3 times a week on average. but i still cant really rest as he constantly wants the breast. and then im not sure if it would make sleep even worse...anyway i have put him on solids hes having breastfast and dinner. hopefully that will help a bit.

i do have another question though. i have been having periods whilst breast feeding. and now they seem to have stopped. is this normal thanks :)

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GloGirl · 10/09/2015 15:53

It can take a while for your hormones to recover whilst breastfeeding, perhaps his increase in feeding has put stop to your periods for a little while. But, is there any chance you are pregnant?

tiktok · 10/09/2015 16:14

At 20 weeks with bf it would be unusual to have a regular cycle so it may be your period is delayed. Most women fully bf don't have periods yet at that stage. So hard to know what is happening. I agree it could be a sign of pregnancy too.

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ghostspirit · 10/09/2015 16:48

i done a test incase and was negitive...i thought it might be linked with the breast feeding. just did not realise it could start and stop...not a bad thing

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maisypop · 13/09/2015 21:20

I am doing both and have done since my LO was born as she wasn't getting enough. I cried and cried when i had to give her formula top ups but now i just think it has to be done so she gets enough. I am planning weaning a week tomorrow - she's 5 months then - as she is now not satisfied after a bottle of formula. I have found it frustrating that i couldn't exclusively BF but not much i can do about it.

StrumpersPlunkett · 13/09/2015 21:37

Fwiw, 5 months was the hardest with both of my boys
They had been straightforward. I was knackered but in some sort of pattern,
Then it all went haywire.
But it did pass and by 6 months we were back on track. In hindsight I would have done the evening feed then asked dh to do a 1am formula then I would have done from then. It would have given me a greater chunk of sleep.

Whatever you decide, please don't feel guilty.. My boys are now 9 and nearly 12 and it was all so long ago. you are really doing a great job. X

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