How to stop bfing

[Notfastjustfurious]

Dd is now 14 months and I really want her to give up the boob. Doesn't really feed during the day anymore unless she's poorly and if she asks I can usually distract her til she forgets but I don't know how else to get her to sleep at bedtime. Currently fed to sleep every night and bed shares so helps herself on and off all night. I don't want her to cio but I do want her off my boobs and out of my bed! Hv has been no use, cio is her only advice so hoping someone here has maybe been there and done that.

First thing I'd do is to move her out into her own bed. Have you got a partner to settle her when she wakes? There are lots of threads in the MN archive on night weaning.

How we stopped the bedtime feed was by me just going out and DH giving them a cup of milk with their story. As I wasn't there they didn't bother and went straight off to sleep

We were in a similar situation but DS was in his own bed. DH did bedtime routine and gave warm cows milk and then did pick up put down putting DS down to sleep. We didn't leave him to cry on his own and went to him at night with just water and did pick up put down if he struggled to settle. Night weaning is so difficult, it's all a phase and soon we'll have moved onto the next one (at least that's what I'm telling myself!).

Thanks, I'll have a look through the archive. Tried shifting her to her cot and that was 4 nights of hell so have given that up for a month and then we'll try again. On the odd night I've been out dh hasn't been able to get her back to bed and she's always just waited for me to come home, her longest stretch is 2 hours. I sometimes wonder how different it would have been if I'd ff instead.

I'm in the same boat with ds. He is fed to sleep every night and feeds throughout the night in between sleep cycles. I have no idea how to deal with it.

He would go hysterical if I put him into a cot and I can't blame him, poor mite has literally been cuddled into my chest since birth

He's pretty much weaned by day, is far too busy to bf and prefers solids. You're not alone OP!