14 mo INCONSOLABLE RAGE when de-latched

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DS Just doesn't want to stop sucking. I don't think he's actually feeding a lot as it is very light and snoozy, but when I detach him from his bedtime feed he immediately wakes and is just so ragey and upset he's then really hard to settle. It's easier to settle him if I didn't feed him. He would just keep going all night if he could.

We're only supposed to be feeding at night because mornings are too busy for a big long feed, but he's just waking earlier to get one in. Again, will keep going forever, and then when I detach him so I can get up he is inonsolable, screams the house down. I've tried going and getting him a drink but he's not very interested.

I want to keep bfing but not sure if it's worth it if it's causing him this much distress. Any advice appreciated.

Anybody?

Would you try a dummy?

I would try anything!
I tried dummys with all my DC as small babies and none of them would have it. But I could try again.
When are you supposed to stop using dummys, is there a big enough window for it to be worth it?

Mine can be like this. I started stroking her face when she was drowsy and falling asleep, for the first few nights I contin until she was asleep, then started unlatching while drowsy and continued the stroking. A few tears but no tantrums. Alternatively if you have a partner who is about at bedtime try feeding in living room, saying goodnight and having DP put him to bed. My DD will go to sleep with much less fuss for my husband!

I think dummy's at night are ok until they are three.
I'm using a cup and cows milk but my first is almost two yrs and still crazy for milk so we have a time limit so he is warned 2 more min and milk is finished, time for nursery etc and then the cup goes. If he wants more during the time we refill the cup. It was hard the first week or so but he got the hang of it. We started this around a yr ago.

My dd is like this when she is over tired, ill or teething. I usually just put up with it as it doesn't happen all the time and I just keep switching sides so it's not too uncomfortable for me. But from your op it's sounds like it's pretty much every feed. You have my sympathies. Do you have anyone else who could attempt to settle him at night or go to him first thing in the morning?

This has brought back memories for me. Anyway, mine would drift of to sleep suckling, in a sort of rythm, so suckle, suckle, long gap where mouth became less tense and i could slip my finger in and detach, and place the baby softly down. if I was luckly. otherwise baby would latch on again strongly as i detached.

Yes jingle that's exactly what he's like. Except he latches on again every time, frantically, and then gets angry when I try to stop him.
I tried a dummy. He was quite interested in it when awake, but it made him very ANGRY when I tried to substitute it after a feed.