Miserable..please help.

[smilingpolitely]

I posted two weeks ago about ds who is now 12 weeks. He has screamed all day and I'm so miserable because I can't seem to get him comfortable. He has been put on Gaviscon, then ranitidine and for the last two weeks I've been expressing all his feeds so that he could have it out of bottle because he was refusing the breast. We've tried several different teats/bottles. I thought we had a breakthro on friday after trying Colief, he was great for a day then back to the same. I have been to Breast feeding clinic to see if they could help me get him to take the breast again but after they had crying for an hour and half even they said not to bother trying.
I feel miserable that I can't feed him from me and have to do it via a pump. He seems so uncomfortable. I've two other children and I'm being really short tempered with them. Getting really down. Thought about expressing but giving him formula for a day to see if it helps. I just don't want to let my milk go, only to find he is no different with formula . Anyone any thoughts?

Yeh sorry I went a bit ranty then didn't I I just want us all to be happy. having a tired fed up mum is no good for the older ones. I don't know why I've got my knickers in such a twist about it. The other two had formula from about 13 weeks cos I went back to work and found expressing then just too much. My Dad said last night if I insisted on still BF would I get the milk analysed cos he was sure it would show there was no goodness in it and thats why ds is small and unhappyI was a model of restaint!

my friends dd was diagnosed lactse intolerant - took pooh sample to gp and had it sentoff. She was prescribed a milk that can only be obtained via docs - she was using the cow and gate comfort but it stopped working. jst an idea

Wow - well done on the restraint with your Dad SP! Think he needs a little education on the nutritional content of bm.....
Just wanted to say well done for keeping going, & to answer your pondering - you are getting your knickers in a twist because you care so much, which can only mean you are a great Mum. Hope you get on ok at bf clinic tomorrow & can get ds tested for the lactose intolerance asap

Have you tried a soya formula, such as WySoy, which is lactose free as well? Worked for my cousin when she was wee. If it works for you, don't be put off by price, when I was considering this option, my DH saw abou 9 tubs of the stuff advertised on ebay at a fraction of normal price.

you are quite allowed to be 'a bit ranty' smilingpolitely. And I echo jackstini's comment. You care and you're a good mum - we'd be worried about you if you didn't get your knickerts in a twist every now and then.
Good luck tomorrow.

At 12 weeks, hopefully your lil one is by now through the worst stage...and I know it is tough, 3ds was a horror, too...but never considered formula as I am just to lazy to deal with all teh hassle it inflicts....and he definately got much better between 3-4 month....but it is difficult, and I must admit, he has been my most challenging Baby ever....hence my sign in name, I suppose, lol!
But hope you get through it!

wow thanks everyone just come back to the computer - excellent excuse to come and play with you lot cos got to do the ole expressing somewhere! your encouragement is very very appreciated

Another day another load of advice See still smiling ,just. Not surprisingly feeding clinic not chuffed about formula suggestion from HV. Pointed out EBM and colief had been working a treat. Tried ds on boob ..complete refusal .. told not to try again as nothing working for him just likes bottles too much now. The MW was lovely and encouraged me to continue expressing if I can and keep putting colief in. Will try and work a better system for the morning because thats the really tricky time. If that doesn't work then will I give up.

Hi SP.
Been wondering about how you are getting on.
Oh dear,it sounds bloody tough.
The bloody expressing malarky is hard work.

Have you tried the babymoon?
(Hard with other kids I know)
Just being with him and allowing him free unpressured access to the milking parlour?

Also,how about cranial osteopathy?

Thanks ladies your encouragement means soooo much . I'm feeling happier today and whats more MIL is having him for the morning while I get a hair cut!

Dear moondog thanks so much for the ABM mags. It is really generous and thoughtful of you to post them to me. x