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Infant feeding

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I don't like BF anymore :-(

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FoodieMum3 · 10/06/2015 11:28

Just that really and I feel so guilty to admit that

Ds is 9 months and EBF since birth and I know I'll plod along with it until he's 1 because he doesn't know any different (never had bottles or formula) and it comforts him.

I just feel like I've had enough and Id quite like my body back. It doesn't help that he can't settle or go to sleep without it, so I can't go out in the evenings.

Not really sure what advice Im looking for, is anyone in the same boat?

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ohthegoats · 10/06/2015 11:40

I was. At 6 months I started mix feeding so I could get a break with the sleep (she's not a sleeper) while boyfriend gave her bottles. I HATED expressing - felt like a cow - even though I've managed to get a stock pile in the fridge for a few weeks if I want it. I carried on doing morning and evening feeds until last week, when I had one bedtime BF that just turned into a bite and scratch fest, and just thought 'no more'.

In the process of dropping those last two feeds I woke up at 4am one morning with really engorged and painful boobs and just had to let her feed. Because she was sleepy, it was nice and relaxing and cosy.. I decided then that that was definitely the last time. A nice final feed.

I do know though, that I went through phases in the first 6 months. If I was hating it I just had to wait a week or so and I'd be back to not minding it. I never loved it.

Don't feel guilty about packing it in if it's making you miserable though. I can't tell you how much better I feel about myself, my new life, my body.. everything really, since I gave up. And my baby is fine, obviously. She's sleeping loads better for a start (one wake up instead of about 10!)

ohthegoats · 10/06/2015 11:41

Oh, my baby is 8 months old. I told myself I'd BF until 3 months max, so I'm pretty happy with my efforts. You should be too.

Lweji · 10/06/2015 11:42

Not anymore, :), but I thought my 1 year old would be difficult to switch to bottle and then nothing at bed time, but it wasn't when I tried.

So, I'd start introducing bottles if you feel that way, and see how it goes. Or express and feed him with a bottle if you want to go out.

Oh, and don't feel guilty at all. It's an order.

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FoodieMum3 · 10/06/2015 11:45

Thank you ohthegoats. I've a lot to think about. He can also get a bit rough sometimes, scratching and pulling and then looking for more (even though he's fed and full). Just feeling a bit down about it all.

Glad you're finally getting sleep. X

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FoodieMum3 · 10/06/2015 11:47

Lweji, maybe I will try expressing once more. Last time I tried, he refused it so it's a total waste. He drinks water from his sippy cup, but not breast milk

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Aberchips · 10/06/2015 11:49

If you don't want to do it any more then that's fine - you have already done 9 months which is fantastic!

I would try a bottle & see how it goes, at some point you are going to have to wean him off the breast to a cup/ bottle and so it might as well be now.

Long term BF isn't for everyone & you shouldn't feel guilty (or let anyone else make you feel guilty) for not wanting to carry on.

Could you OH give a bottle of formula/ expressed milk as a first attempt while you go out for half an hour? I found it was much easier for my son to accept a bottle the first few times if I wasn't there.

500Decibels · 10/06/2015 11:49

I was. I hated bf but did it anyway as I know it's the best thing for them. I held out til they were 11.5 months then switched to cows milk.
I was going back to work anyway and was so happy to stop.
I felt the same as you. I wanted my body back. I felt like I existed only for the purpose of being a food source and carer.
Do not feel guilty. You're doing your best. Youre an intelligent independent woman who just wants some of that independence back.
You'll be fine

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FoodieMum3 · 10/06/2015 11:52

Thank you all. Even just replies that others understand really help.

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Lweji · 10/06/2015 11:52

They do change a lot month to month, and you could try with someone else giving him the bottle.

Now that I think of it, DS never really got a chance to say no to a bottle, because I took off at 3 months to an overnight work thing and he just had to take it from his dad or go hungry, I suppose.

Lweji · 10/06/2015 11:55

Just to clarify, I loved breastfeeding and was sad to stop it, but then it never got in the way of going away, working or anything. So, I do sympathise with you feeling trapped.

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