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11pm bottle when to get rid , do we try tonight ???

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melsy · 30/04/2004 22:00

I know theres possibly loads of threas on this but I thought Id start a fresh. AS its 10:00 fri , dont expect much till tommorow WE have been talking this evening. He feel that we should experiment tonight and not give it to 7mth dd . I dont know why he feels now is the time, as she doesnt take that much milk anyway 8oz in 24hrs!! and this used to be her largest intake bottle. So Im not sure what to do , how do we do this, do we stop cold , dilute(which is a worry to me, my intuition says no), or carry on until she doesnt take that much?? What we are thinking is that it has now become a habit as she wakes for it, so there will be no comfort thing to get her off to sleep again.Dh feels it may mean she takes more during the day to make up for the shortfall, but what if she doesnt, then she will only have 4oz, which is not right at all.Is this a good/right age to cut it back?? Am I going into the realms of cc now, with what has been so far a very calm contented baby, happy to sleep , happy to settle !!!arrrrggghhh . I havent had a dilemma like this for months!!

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melsy · 30/04/2004 22:01

The WE was meant to say DH and I??? dont know were the royal WE came from!!

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cab · 30/04/2004 22:06

Sorry can't help cos dd now 3.5 and gave away my contented little baby book. (gina Ford). Vaguely remember she recommended 110z or so up until a year old - but could well be wrong!!
Probably need to up her milk during the day before cutting out the 11p.m.?????????????

bbensley · 30/04/2004 22:12

I'm at 16 weeks and was reading contented baby about the 11pm feed.
I think she said drop it when they only drink two ounces and sleep thro till 7am for 7 consecutive nights. Not sure this will ever happen or if this is relevant to your situation or if i remembered it right.

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melsy · 30/04/2004 22:20

I find Gina f is not my fave person & very frustrating!!. I put that book away at 3mths old(although some of it is right, just makes me gggrrr). I will have a look but every situation is diff and they dont take much account for the mental health of the mum!!!

Thanks cab but she wont take more milk than that, hates the stuff!!I dropped all the bottles a while back as she played with them no end (smacking away and throwing body)& I wont drive my self into tizzy bringing them back!!! I add dairy into her food through the day to up the intake to about 16-17oz ish & she eats a lot of food.

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mummytojames · 30/04/2004 22:24

i founld going cold was the worst thing me and dp done we found just droping it slowly helped plus where she dont take much milk anyway try loseing a oz from the night and putting it in the day time bottle and just progress this way slowly until she sees that its getting to the point where theres no need for her to wake up as she aint going to get anything in the end anyway

hth

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melsy · 30/04/2004 22:25

shes goes to bed 6:30-7 and is dream fed the 11, which is now 10:30 as she just woke at that time. within 10mins shes back to sleep and goes till 7:00-7:30. sometimes she takes 2oz most time 4oz at this time. It may just happen naturally that shes not interested and wnats to sleep and not be bothered, but just interested in how to phase it out.

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melsy · 30/04/2004 22:29

Yeah i wondered about going cold & thinking its to abrupt as its part of sleep time, we did it cold when dropping the other day bottles , but then food replaced them and it worked fine as the others left automatically upped. But what if she wanst to take more, do you just only GIVE/MAKE them 2oz?? Is that the best phase out?? Im not sure shell take more , we have fight trying to get more in her during the day anyway!!

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mummytojames · 30/04/2004 22:35

if shes taking four oz bottles day and night just offer three in night and five in day then two in night and six in day one in night and seven in day until night feed has gone and shes being offered eight oz in the day or even do what were doing morning and night feed ds takes his bottle in the morning then takes one in the night alow her the choice of how much from each she wants oh and the night feed is the bottle just before bed time andi wouldnt panic to much about her not takeing a lot of milk ds went through this but like your could eat for britain

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melsy · 30/04/2004 22:45

I think I got that mumtojames!! so for every oz less at 10:30 put it into day bottles??
so normally :

2oz
2oz
4oz

DO :

3oz
2oz
3oz

& then

3oz
3oz
20z

& then

4oz
4oz
No bottle ??

???

Its all seems so scientific !!!

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mummytojames · 30/04/2004 23:18

yeah basicaly i didnt realise it was so confusing until i read your thread god and people say i dont have brains lol

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melsy · 01/05/2004 13:02

No you do have brains!!! Its me that doesnt!!. I let my dh talk me into leaving her last night withought her bottle and she woke up 3:00 in the morning sobbing, something she hasnt done for 3-4 mths .She gulped down 3oz quicker than you can say 3oz , poor little babes. I felt so upset for her ,angry at him and annoyed with myself I then proceeded to have a very frightening panic attack , of which I have been suffering since she was 3 weeks old, hence my apprehension in changing things at all. I think more than anything I was upset that I let his decision overide my intuition not to do it this way.Thankfully he realised that to change the routine for either of us girls is not a wise move. I think I need dd's routine more than she does. Suffice to say its not going to happen again like that. Its just hard to do it the way your suggest mumtojames as she wont take more than 2oz in day bottles hard as I might to try and up it. Not sure either how to get her to drink less than she wants at 10:30pm. I think the answer is that shes not quite ready yet and we shoud wait a bit longer to change things.

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papillon · 01/05/2004 13:21

good answer melsy

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melsy · 01/05/2004 13:52

Tahnk you paps !! . I think we need to make sure that we can up her food and dairy intake during the day before shes ready. I think she was telling us that!!!

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