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Nearly 10 week old looking for feeds infrequently

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YouMaySayImADreamer · 20/03/2015 13:58

My DS2 is 10 weeks on Monday and ebf. He has always been a baby who likes sleep but at the same time needs a bit of help to get to/stay asleep and sleeps a lot better/longer in my arms/the sling/car seat than if I put him down elsewhere. As this isnt always possible he tends to cat nap and wake up a bit grumpy.

I have never been able to read any distinct feeding cues from him so I tend to offer him a feed any time he cries or gets grouchy. However I feel that he doesnt take/ask for many "big/proper" feeds a day. It is just a series of short, what feel like poor quality feeds where he will either feed a bit lazily before falling asleep, or he will fall asleep soon after the immediate let down and will only take one side. Sometimes I dont even feel a let down although he is sometimes sick so he obviously has got some milk.

What I feel are "proper" feeds tend to come after a long period of sleep. e.g. yesterday we were in the car/pram in town and he slept for four hours before waking up for a good feed. Even when he does have a longer feed he will usually not stay on each breast long enough to stimulate a second let down. These feeds can only last 5 minutes too sometimes which is worrying when he might not have fed for a few hours. Although possibly he is just efficient as he does get the milk drunk look even after 5 minutes.

At night he is waking approx two hourly or possibly 1.5 hours at times and again will have a quick feed before falling back to sleep. It has been a problem too that I am tired and fall asleep when feeding however ive made a concerted effort to stay awake the last few nights and all my efforts to keep him awake by stripping him off, changing his nappy etc arent having much impact on his sleepiness.

My breasts feel quite soft in the morning, more so on the left side which never appears to fill up and I am so worried he isnt feeding well enough to maintain supply.

Nappy wise he is having enough wet nappies but dirty nappies tend to be maybe two small smudges a day and one to two more significant poos a week.

Weight wise he is gaining well on the 75th centile however when I last got him weighed he had gained 10.5 ounces in 12 days when he had previously been gaining about 10 ounces a week so im scared its beginning to slow. My DS1 also gained well for the first 12 weeks before having a bit stall in weight gain from 3-6 months so my big worry has always been of history repeating itself.

Am I worrying unnecessarily or does it sound like he is nursing poorly?

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tiktok · 20/03/2015 23:52

Sorry you are feeling so concerned :( Sounds to me from your description that your baby is fine, his feeding is normal, and he is healthy and growing well. The best guide to feeding effectiveness overall is the baby's well-being. You score really highly on that!

It is well within normal for growth to slow or even plateau about now. Is there any reason why he is being weighed so often? Would reducing this frequency help your confidence? Your red book will give you info on weighing frequency. IIRC it would be no more than monthly, tops.

YouMaySayImADreamer · 21/03/2015 03:56

Thanks for taking the time to read my incredibly long post tiktok and to reply!

It is my choosing to weigh him so often as I have real confidence issues with my supply and it spurs me on if he is gaining well - which of course works both ways. I think it's because with both DCs I never become massively full or leaky when my milk came in (although maybe did a little more this time) and all this talk of people squirting milk everywhere leaves me a bit Hmm as to why I don't find my milk so abundant.

Even though I look at my baby and he looks fab, big and healthy I just lack confidence that I can maintain that and panic at any sign of his feeding slowing down. At the moment his night feeds are snacky and sleepy and I would actually be glad if he was feeding lots more than he is.

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Gunpowder · 21/03/2015 04:15

Tiktok is expert and hopefully she will be back tomorrow, but just as reassurance in the middle of the night: having soft boobs doesn't mean you don't have enough milk. It was explained to me that breastmilk is like a river rather than a lake, and is produced according to demand. It sounds like your boobs are in sync with your son's appetite!

Might be worth going to a la Leche league meeting or a breastfeeding cafe. I did this and it was reassuring to be able to access advice but also see that everyone's babies feed differently. It's not an exact science. Smile

amy83firsttimer · 21/03/2015 04:31

I had similar experiences at the same stage and it's just the baby getting more efficient. Well done. It seems your nicely in tune with each other!

amy83firsttimer · 21/03/2015 04:31

you're !!!!!

kittyvet · 21/03/2015 05:04

I have a snacker too! She is now 5 mths but the first 3mths she fed hourly and NOTHING would stop her falling asleep at the breast. Stopped listening to all the advice from HV about waking her up and just went along at her pace! Never looked back and she now feeds 9x a day. Most of this is evening cluster so not onerous as put my feet up! As others have said if she is gaining regularly and following her curve in book then nothing to worry about. I went to a breastfeeding club and their help was invaluable!

figginz · 21/03/2015 07:13

OP, others have and will give you good advice. I just wanted to say that I also have soft boobs which hardly leak. And was a bit worried about all the spraying people mention! But DD is getting nice and chubby and tracking her line. So just be grateful you don't have to spend a fortune on breast pads!

Gunpowder · 21/03/2015 08:20

Yeh. I have been feeding for 2.5 years and never needed breast pads ever! I'd bought a massive pack on Amazon in preparation and ended up giving it away.

YouMaySayImADreamer · 21/03/2015 08:29

Thanks all for the reassurance, much appreciated and really has made me feel better...think I need to start looking at my baby more than my boobs because he does seem very content. Re. the soft boobs I am really pleased to hear its not just me, and especially from a long term breastfeeder gunpowder as I fed DS1 for 13 months but really want to carry on longer this time.

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tiktok · 21/03/2015 08:36

Dreamer you and your baby and your breasts and your feeding are all normal. You are right to decide to look at your baby and judge from that Smile weekly weighing sounds stressful for you and it might be worth finding some other source of affirmation.

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