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Tongue tied and fed up

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eviloops · 17/03/2015 20:50

Our baby girl had her tongue tie cut at 5 days, privately at a high cost. Still after 5 weeks of persevering, bloody nipples, engorged breasts and excruciating pain and constant fights at feeding time, she was diagnosed with tongue tie again and has it cut on the NHS at 6 weeks and fed beautifully afterwards. We have gradually built up breastfeeding during the day and now only use formula for the dream feed to beef her up before bedtime.

So from 6 weeks to 15 weeks, she had fed reasonably well from the breast but has slowly started refusing the breast. I put this down to her growing and becoming nosey - tried mussy over her head and quite room etc to try break distraction but to no avail. I made the heart-breaking decision to give up breastfeeding as feeding times are becoming extremely unpleasant and I'm making myself upset as she is refusing to feed, like she's struggling to latch.

Today I took her for a 16 week weigh in and she was diagnosed with a thick posterior tongue tie!!! I nearly fell over!!! How could this be? She's already enduring the pain and trauma of two cuts..... It all makes sense to me now - she's been struggling to feed for about a fortnight and it is like she's struggling to latch, exactly like she was before her tongue tie was cut.

Today we decided to stop breastfeeding and I feel so emotional as I persevered and tried so hard to do this for my baby girl. She's been on formula all day and is like a different baby; smiling, cooing and playing happily. I've not seen this side of her for over a fortnight so I know I'm making the right decision for her.....

Most of my breastfeeding friends are counting down to give up yet I'm struggling to hold on as I love nothing more than the warm cuddly bond breastfeeding brings between us. Today is a sad sad day for me....

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Smooshface · 17/03/2015 21:30

Sorry to hear that your journey is over, but you did everything you could! Very good to get as far as you have. My dd2 had tongue tie, 2 snips too, pesky thing. You will get to enjoy her in other ways, and trust me when I say it's no fun being the only one able to settle as they get older and just want a feed...

cookiemunster · 17/03/2015 22:01

I totally get where you are at OP. We also went through 2 snips, and couldn't stomach anymore so decided to give up. Be kind to yourself, you have obviously persevered so hard and 4 months is a big achievement, and you will still be able to have lots of cuddles with your little one.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 18/03/2015 20:03

You've given your dd the best possible start, perhaps talking to a BFC would help you to come to terms with your decision? Smile

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