How do I stop feeding?

[calilark]

I've been feeding DD for 20 months. This is much longer than I expected, and I've been going down the 'don't offer but don't refuse' route since her birthday last year.

We are down to a morning and bedtime feed, and I can't get past these. I can distract from the morning feed with breakfast immediately but she remembers and we end up feeding breakfast.

This eve, she fed for approx 20 mins before bed and was all sleepy, then delatched and really scraped my nipple with her teeth. She starts screaming for more but my nipples were hurting so badly (she had a really deep latch on the other which has bruised), so I tried the 'booby all gone' approach. This resulted in absolute hysterical meltdown - proper heaving screeching monkey sobs, I have never seen her so upset.

So I've spent the evening so far crying my eyes out feeling terribly guilty that I am the cause of her getting so upset, but how can I get past this without repeat performances of tonight?

I dropped the morning one first. I stayed in bed and dh gave her breakfast downstairs, the I got up and we went out.

For the evening one I just went out for a few nights. Had to wait until dh was off as he often isn't here at bedtime.

One other thing that helped was that I always fed her these last two feeds in a chair in her bedroom, then I removed the chair.