4 month old DD up every 2 hours through the night

[Missloveybubble]

And will only go to sleep if breast fed. I know she isn't hungry but it's the only way to settle her to sleep again, it's just very tiring. Also she grazes all day feeds for 5 mins at a time every hours or 2. I don't know what to do

Sorry not quite 4 months lol 3 months 2 weeks she is. Getting ahead of myself lol

Has this always been how she is? If so have you checked for tongue tie? Or a recent change?4 month sleep regression is very common (unfortunately).dd1 was a terrible sleeper so my advice is to just do whatever maximises sleep for you, forget routines, ignore rod for your own back interference if cosleeping works for you and definitely resist urge to wean early.

I used to sleep in shifts with dh, a few hours 8-11 really helped me get through nights, and nap during day time until your batteries are slightly recharged.

Both my girls I had to sleep train around 10/11 months (the dreaded controlled crying), but it's much too early for that for you yet. Your spirit must be truly broken before you go down that road

So, be kind to yourself, cup of tea and a shower helps most days, and take opportunities for naps whenever possible. One day it will stop being so knackering, I promise.

Can you offer a bottle of EBM or formula for the last feeds? At the end of the day my DS is v tired and tends to fall asleep on me - he takes much more from a bottle. We now do bottle feeds of 7oz for 7pm and 10.30pm. I keep burping/tickling etc to keep him awake so he takes as much as possible. DS was waking at 2am but after a few nights of DH settling him without a feed he is now sleeping through til 4ish when I feed him. Like you I knew he wasn't hungry at 2am and was just using me for comfort. He did kick off when he realised he wasn't getting me, but it only lasted a few days. We've now been over a week with no wake ups between the dream feed at 10.30am and 4am. If you know for sure she isn't hungry then I think you should try to settle her in other ways. For me, the thought of doing it was much worse than it actually was! And I also have a much happier baby in the day now he is sleeping a longer stretch at night. Good luck!

At 3 months it could definitely be hunger, or just needing comfort to settle as she is still tiny. :)

Is she ok and settled in between feeds?

I like www.kellymom.com for advice and also reassuring info about normal feeding patterns

Also worth calling a bf helpline for advice. :)