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Infant feeding

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Hitting stumbling blocks at 3 months...

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HungerKunstler · 26/01/2015 18:17

My DD is 12 weeks old and while we had some issues in the early stages of bf we had managed to work through them and I thought we were doing well. I had just managed to wean us off using shields but DD has suddenly become really fussy on the breast and latches off and on all the time. It is worse without the nipple shields because my letdown is very fast and she splutters and pulls off.

Also, now that she is waking up more to the world, the least noise or distraction wakes her up and she pulls off. It is destroying my nipples! I did read online about nursing strikes starting from 3 months due to distraction as they wake up more but it is hard for me to minimize distraction all the time as I have a 3-year old. It's especially hard from 4-8pm when she is at her fussiest and most overtired / hungry. I use a sling but now she is even starting to wake up and fuss in that!

How do you settle a baby that won't feed from over tiredness? She will take a bottle but I don't always have EBM ready so last night out of desperation I gave her some formula (DH has an emergency stash in the garage in case I am out and there's no EBM in the fridge. Haven't had to use it so far) as she just would not feed on the breast. Should I start pumping and trying to bottle feed more? Do they eventually get past this fussiness and settle down again? It's been going on for the last 2 weeks now.

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Greenstone · 27/01/2015 10:32

It's very frustrating,I hear you. I also have a 12 week old and a 3 year old. Last night the baby just wouldn't settle or fall asleep on boob until past 11pm, she was overtired. She slept in bed beside me all night last night which was the only way I could get her down. Not sure if there's anything to be done but ride it outConfused I think my first did this too.

HungerKunstler · 27/01/2015 17:19

Thanks, Greenstone. Good to know I'm not alone! I live in fear right now of her getting overtired because if she gets into that state there's almost no way to calm her. The baby carrier was my lifesaver up to now but a couple of nights ago that didn't even work.

She seems to get really stimulated and then struggle to feed from tiredness and distraction but then struggle to sleep from hunger. It's infuriating! Don't know what the answer is because a the advice says feed in a quiet dark room with no distractions etc but that's impossible with a 3 year old. I really hope it's just a phase...

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Heatherbell1978 · 28/01/2015 08:39

Have you tried feeding when she's asleep or just woken up? DS1 started being fussy at 12 wks and then sadly for me it turned into a full blown nursing strike and we switched to ff at 4.5 mths. But for a few weeks he would feed fine if I did it just as he'd woken from a nap in a dark room. During the night he was always fine. I do sympathise though, I was housebound for a few weeks while this was going on as I definitely couldn't feed him outside the house.

HungerKunstler · 29/01/2015 22:46

Yes, she does feed better if she's just woken up from a nap or during the night-time feeds when she's half-asleep, Heather. I think overtiredness is a big factor as she gets too stimulated and just can't focus enough to feed. The last few days have been better as I've been trying to catch her at the right times and feed her as much as I can, even if it's only an hour after she last fed. Thst seems to fill her up more so then even if she gets tired, she's not desperately hungry too.

Let's hope it's just a passing phase...!

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CoolCat2014 · 30/01/2015 10:13

DD did this about the same time with a full blown nursing strike, and I'm still struggling with it at times - she's 19wks now. I've found that I've had to change the way I feed her - best to feed her straight after a nap, or once she's really calm. It's a lot better than it was, had to syringe feed her a few times. Trying different positions help a lot!

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