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[dinny]

hello, right, firstly, sorry for asking this yet again as have started a couple of threads in th last few months about this but I really want ds to magically wean himself but don't think it's going to happen! Every time I try to instigate feeding-in-his-room-at-set-times (as a few people have suggested here as a waty of gradually cutting down) he gets some lurgy and is totally miserable and wants to feed all the time, so I end up letting him (of course).

My question is- will he ever wean himself? I just can't bear to force him if he doesn't want to but I am really starting to want to not feel constantly dehydrated and knackered . Read somewhere most toddlers self-wean between 3 and 4...? Is that true? tia, Dinny

DD was the only one who self weaned, and she was just over two. How old is your DS? I started cutting DD down when she was about 18mths, by not feeding out of the house (being out was distraction enough for her to not ask most of the time), offering an alternative (sometimes she was just thirsty and happy to have a drink, sometimes she was happy to have a dummy rather than me - although you then have to get rid of that at some stage )

Don't know the answer to your question but to share my experiences: I weaned my DD at about 16 months. By then was just feeding twice a day so didn't have a lot of milk and was finding her a little aggressive (pulling up my top etc). I found trying to cut down nigh on impossible so in the end just told her that mummy had no milk left. We went shopping for a fancy cup for her instead. She whined for a day or so but really wasn't that bothered by it which amazed me. It affected me far more than it affected her as I really missed the closeness of feeding her.

he was two a month ago...

hmm, good point about offering a drink instead - always forget to when he's scrabbling round for bosom...

We are moving house on Saturday, actually, think it could help in cutting down? We're doing away with our TV (eek!) as an experiment so maybe that will help (as TV-watching after tea/before bed) is a time when he HAS to feed.

Hello lovely. Have you read How Weaning Happens? I have a copy somewhere - will try to remember it for Thursday.

(DS1 self-weaned when I got pg - you could always have no 3? )

thanks, Sallyrosie - am thinking may need to invest in new cup with bells on for him!

Hi, Hunk - wow, can't believe you're back on Thursday! Would love to borrow it - thanks! can't believe I'm still banging on about this but I reeealllly want to wear underwired bras again (even though I do now, nortily, lol)

I'm back tomorrow

DS2 is 9mo on Wednesday - surely that's not possible?

And what is your DS doing being TWO?! No way! Happy birthday, btw

hey dinny
dd1 just self weaned at (gulp) 3 and a bit. I can't be more specific bout it, as it happened over a period of weeks/months, but it became less and less frequent after her third birthday.
from speaking to other weirdy breastfeeders that seems about normal.
(she carried on feeding al through my pg and tandem withher sister btw, so that's not foolproof )

Hunker - good luck for tomorrow! bet you can't wait to feel those headphones making your ears itch, lol.

Harpsi - 3 and a bit seems a LONG way away. Not tempted to find out if new pg stops ds feeding though!