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Accidental extended breastfeeding

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Icedfinger · 29/10/2014 19:22

I'm still BFing my 16m old DD. She feeds first thing in the morning, bedtime and if she wakes (lots at the moment due to teething!)

This was never part of the plan but I now don't know how to stop!

Any other accidental bfers? Any ideas how to persuade my DD to give up?

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Mummify · 29/10/2014 19:37

Me too! I intended to stop at 6 months as I did with dd1. Still going at 14 months. I have set lots of goals (when he crawls / when he walks / when I went away for 2 days etc etc) but still end up feeding. I only feed at bedtime and sometimes in the night. Next week I am stopping - I am in a show which runs for 6 nights so will not be present at bedtime for any of those nights - I think that its him wanting the boob at bedtime that makes me carry on. Is it the same for you? Is this your last baby (it is for me which I also think it why I am finding it hard to stop).
Do you really want to stop? There is nothing wrong with carrying on until your LO self weans. However if you reslly do want to, would you like to join me in trying to stop next week? I'm starting this Sunday....

bagofsnakes · 29/10/2014 21:52

Ha! Me too! 28 months and still going, only intended a year. Whenever I felt like it was getting to be too much for me, I just cut down a feed. So at 14 months we cut down to just morning and night feeds, and then a few of months ago when I was newly pregnant with DC2, I just felt too sore, so cut out the morning feed. Now he just feeds before bed, for 10 or so mins, and I'm fine with that.

For us, the only way to really cut down those feeds was for DH to take over. When I wanted to cut out the morning feed a few of months ago, I told DH that he would need to get DS up in the morning and take him downstairs, get him breakfast etc. I followed 10-15 mins later. After a few days of that DS seemed to completely forget that he ever fed in the mornings. Haven't decided if I'm going to let him self-wean or make him cut the night feed before DC2 arrives but if I do decided to cut it, then DH will just do bedtime without me for a couple of days.

Could your OH take over night parenting for a week? It might not even take that long. He could do the comforting, administer teething powers or calpol etc. Then you'd just be down to morning and night and you could see how that feels for you.

PenguinsIsSleepDeprived · 29/10/2014 21:54

Me. Getting pregnant with DD2 and then DS worked. Quite extreme though and no use on your final baby.

BonaDea · 29/10/2014 22:00

Me sort of. I never had a particular end date in mind but don't think I expected to still be going at 19 months. He still feeds morning and bedtime. Working up to dropping the morning feed between now and him being 21 months. Then will give bedtime another 3 months with a view to stopping by age two. I'd like a year or so of my own boobs before potentially having dc 2.

CheeseEqualsHappiness · 29/10/2014 22:01

Dd did morning and night for 18 months until she was 3. It didn't impact on our days so I let her carry on for as long as she wanted

ElephantsNeverForgive · 29/10/2014 22:11

All extended BFing is 'accidental' on the part if the mother. We forget to say no.

One day we realise our DC is old enough to ask why we said no.

We don't have a good answer so we carry on.

However, there was nothing accidental about it on DD2's side. She loved BFing and she instinctively knew how not to make it a chore.

ProveMeWrong · 29/10/2014 22:14

Me! Never really thought when pregnant. Now he's nearly three and still likes the odd feed. I'm just not keen on unecessary crying so just let him on demand (desperation) He's still a baby really and just wants a bit of comfort now and then and I see that that's what mums are for! He can get himself to sleep without which took the pressure off bedtime though. I think he's phasing it out slowly but still smiles whoever he sees boobies as if they are long lost buddies!

Ikeameatballs · 29/10/2014 22:18

Ds is 5 at Xmas. I thought about giving up a few times for varying reasons....he now doesn't really feed but still likes to feel my breasts when he is tired/upset/anxious/bored.

I'm sure he'll stop eventually....

Hazchem · 30/10/2014 06:46

Yeah I thought I'd go to 15 months. DS will be 4 in March! He only feeds every few days but is quite keen on my boobs so it looks like I'll be tandem feeding from December

GingerSkin · 30/10/2014 07:03

Not feeding now but dd was accidentally fed until 2.4

I had no intention of carrying on past 6 months

If you want to cut out night feeds, this helped me loads ( with night wake months reducing) try the Dr Jay Gordon night weaning method

This saved my sanity and your Dc is the right age to try it. We had instant results in every way - so increased food intake, better feeds off me (rather than on/off little feeds) and sleeping better.

This is a good place to start if you want to stop completely.

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