9 week old EBF & no routine at all

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Is this normal?
I'm finding it difficult to be anywhere at a certain time. No day is ever the same - sleeping or eating. I'm not getting stressed just finding it difficult to plan anything! He could feed for 20mins or an hour, I just never know how a day will pan out.
Also hate visitors when he is feeding all night or sleeping - just seems a waste of their time & when we could be having quiet time to ourselves.
Also should we be bathing him everyday?

Don't worry that's completely normal. At that ages babies have lots of growth spurts and things and have to be able to "programme" your milk supply so just go with the flow. I feel like we're just getting into some sort of vague pattern (routine would be an exaggeration!) at 7 months! Please enjoy it, this part doesn't last long and soon enough that tiny baby will be crawling into everything and you will long for the days of feeding in front of the tv for hours on end!
No, not necessary to bath every day. We did because DD likes her baths and actually it did help us to get a bedtime routine going.

we started daily baths at six months with weaning as he'd end up with food in his hair, ears, everywhere... also a bit more routine appeared around 6mo when we were scheduling in food feeds and he began to bf on more of a routine then too.

9 week, ebf, certainly no bedtime or nap routine. I can generally count on feeds around 7 and 10:30 am with a long nap (on me) in between, but that's it. feeds really vary in length and change daily as to whether they are spaced 1.5 hours or 2 hours apart. try to bathe every other day, but honestly, I've got a screamer that won't be put down and needs to be walked and bounced constantly, so sometimes a bath just doesn't figure into our day.

We did bath every day from early on because it was a way for DH to spend time with DD when he came home from work. And in the long run, it helped with establishing a bed time routine. However, it's really up to you.
As for any other kind of routine; do not worry at all! My 7 month DD doesn't even have much of a routine (try as I might). At 9 weeks it's all about going with your baby's flow and not planning anything! Try to keep visitors limited and don't feel bad if at the last minute you have to change their plans. I wish people had told me this when DD was tiny.

Agree with pp - we were 100% baby led, feeding on demand, sleeping when tired until 6/7 months. Naps were varying lengths and morning wake ups varied wildly due to however horrendous our night had been.

It's only been in the last month that my 7 month old has stabilised his wake up time, his naps are a decent and predictable length and we are BFing around meal times rather than just on and off 25 times all day.

Instead of a routine I just worked around his wake times which have extended over time. From memory I think at 9 weeks it's about an hour to hour and a half awake before needing another sleep. I just planned walks out around that and he would sleep in the pushchair/car

Thanks for the replies. Might start bathing every evening to resemble some sort of structure!
Like all the mother & baby things seem to be in the mornings - how do people get out of the house for these?!

I've always found the mornings easier - it's not like I'm laying in bed til late morning so might as well get out the house and then come home to have a quiet afternoon.

It helps if you put everything ready the night before eg restock changing bag and I have started showering in the evening when DH is home. Makes the morning much easier.

I also find mornings horrific! Only time I get any sleep - between her early morning feed and her late morning feed and/or poo!

Luckily my area seems to have things starting about 11am-3 pm.

I am happy to feed out so go places and either pop out a boob or cover with a scarf for visitors depending on age and their awkwardness ... but poonamis get me in a right flap. I live in fear of one somewhere naice with poor changing facilities.

I've got a 7 week old and no predictability here either. The only thing that's predictable is he generally sleeps around 11pm-4 or 5am last night was til 7am and has started this late (5-6pm) nap which I often have to wake him from so my long night stretch doesn't get lost!

I also find getting out in the mornings hard. We need to feed her change her, I need to express, prepare bottles to take, refill changing bag (if not already done), wash the night's bottles, sterilise, etc. And she will inevitably produce a poonami just as I am about to leave the house.

Oh yes they definitely know when it's the worst possible moment to fill a nappy (or even overflow!) mine usually waits until we've set off in the car so it makes a right mess! One thing I've realised is that most people have some experience of babies and are actually very understanding and kind when these things happen.
Suss out where all the changing places are at the shops etc. Some even have lovely feeding rooms with comfy chairs eg John Lewis. Try going to some baby groups where everyone else is dealing with the same issues and they won't mind if you are a bit late. I've met some lovely friends this year and we've all muddled through together.

My main problem is that I never know when he will wake to feed & the feeds vary in time massively. I do prefer to feed in the house or at my parents house although have feed out a few times.
I do try to sleep when he sleeps so if he say wake up at 5am for a feed, goes back down at 6.30am so do I until he wake at say 9.30/10am. I know I could set the alarm for 8am or sthing but I figure I need the sleep too. Might just have to start dragging myself out of bed a couple of mornings a wk!

You should definitely be catching up on sleep. You will probably find as the weeks pass that he settles into more of a normal waking time. My LO usually wakes between 6.15-6.45 but it was 8 this morning - result! We found that as she became more active she was tired earlier in the evening so we started a bath and bedtime routine at about 6.30. She wakes for a feed in the night but sleeps for around 12 hours overall. What I'm really saying is that it does get easier.

Can you predict distance between feeds? Mine is 2-3 hr like clockwork unless she's having an evening cluster. So I know my "windows" of time to nap, do chores, shop and whether I need to feed outside the house.

He has to moreorless feeding a schedule now whether he likes it or not as meals and naps are fixed(ish) so feeds have to be around them.

Before weaning he literally just fed on and off all day. Some would call this "snacking" but I just saw it as feeding on demand.