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Breastfeeding crushing my sex drive???

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littleraysofsunshine · 07/10/2014 22:49

Or is it the tiredness?? Anyone else relate the two? I've read that it does effect the hormones but...

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AnythingNotEverything · 07/10/2014 22:52

I've found the constant "being touched" doesn't help, nor does the fatigue, but also that the hormones mean sex is kind of dialled down. Down to two feeds a day now at one year and it's just getting sort of back to normal.

Levismum · 07/10/2014 23:04

Dd is 8 months. Personally i feel the tiredness is the biggest factor!

FoodieMum3 · 08/10/2014 09:41

Yes it can. It's a natural contraceptive, natures way of spacing pregnancies. I was reading somewhere a few days ago that it even dries the vagina.

Tiredness is a factor too though!!

littleraysofsunshine · 08/10/2014 14:03

we have three little ones. I am feeding my boy who is 8 months old and i still feel like im just not interested most times. sounds awful.

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HappyAsASandboy · 08/10/2014 15:01

Of course it doesn't sound awful! You have several small children at home, so I'd place a bet you have had maybe 5 years of reduced sleep, bonkers hormones, being touched all the time by other people seeking comfort, logistical stress, financial stress, changes in priorities, changes to your body, less time with your partner ..... it would be a surprise to me if your libido wasn't affected at all by that!

That said, I think hormones play a big part. I ebf my twins and had absolutely no libido. The thought was exhausting! Then one day I woke up randy as hell (much to DHs surprise!) .... two weeks later my first period in 27 months arrived! I have always noticed an increase in libido around ovulation, but was surprised that the very first ovulation post pregnancy could suddenly wipe out all the other stuff. I was still Breastfeeding the twins at this point (18 months old, feeding maybe 4 times each in 24 hours), so I am sure it was the return of ovulation that changed things, not any change in Breastfeeding habits.

Give yourself time. Meanwhile, talk to your DH and explain that all the massive changes have affected your libido but you still love him and think it will all come back eventually. I hope he is understanding.

timetomoveon · 08/10/2014 19:29

I'm still bf my 18 month old ds and it probably took til after he was a year old before I had any kind of sex drive. Now, I would say that we're back to normal, although sometimes I'd rather get some actual sleep than spend time having sex Wink

Writerwannabe83 · 08/10/2014 19:43

I'm EBF my 6 month old and me and DH haven't had sex since he was born - I just have no desire for it at all. It probably doesn't help that I'm shattered most days Smile

I've tried explaining to DH about BF and lack of sex drive but I'm not sure he believes me Grin

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