How to stop breast feeding at 3 years - advice please

[IamnotaStepfordHousewife]

My friend is still doing the last feed at bed time and would like to drop it. However due to her Dh's work hours can't have him do all the bed times to stop the feeding. Any advice please.

Could you try offering a cup of milk in the bath? My DH works irregular hours too so we waited until he had a few days where we knew he would be home at bedtime and let him put her to bed while I went out.

My DD is nearly 3 and I've just stopped the bedtime feed but she does still have a quick feed in the morning before we get up. My DH works funny hrs too so was no help.

I bought a new quilt cover and put her in her big bed and made bedtime really special. Laid with her, read a story, put music on etc but made it clear we didn't BF in her new bed. She knows she has to wait untill the suns awake. Some nights she nodded off and some nights she screamed and it did take about 3 weeks but we got there. Definately don't try it if you have work the next day as it was exhausting.

Just did this last week on my DS's third birthday. It was about a million times easier than I expected! I bought a big book of slightly more grown up bedtime stories and showed it to DS well in advance. I told him that big boys who were three didn't have mummy milk anymore, and that from his birthday we would have a story from the big book every night in our rocking chair, instead of a BF. He was excited about the book and kept looking at the cover but I wouldn't let him read it until his birthday.

On the birthday night we got the book down, snuggled up as normal but I kept a high necked top on, and read him the first story. Every night since then we've done the same and he hasn't complained once. In fact, I almost feel a bit rejected (!) as he loved his milk so much I thought it might be a wrench for him, but he has had no tears or sadness at all.

Good luck with it!

Oh and the weird thing is, he seems to be falling asleep much quicker now! I thought it would take longer as the BF made him dozy, but nope. He is only taking 5-10 minutes to fall asleep now as opposed to the previous 15-20.