I have ME and bf'ing with our 17 wo Pipsqueak has never clicked in the way it did with our first son.
The exhaustion is pretty difficult to handle, husband has to get our older son up and to school and cook in the evenings and sometimes often put him to bed. It's rotten because I feel that the bond between the older son and I is weakened, specially since the pregnancy was bad and I couldn't do anything at all with him then.
Doctor and various other people have recommended stopping bf'ing more for my sake than his becuase of the energy drain of bf'ing. I'm not really happy about this, wanted to get to 6 months at least. Currently going for 2 bf's in the 24 hours and the rest formula. Incidentally just started putting a tiny bit of rice mush in his last bottle so that he will sleep longer through the night, again on medical recommendation.
Does anyone know if the energy demands really are as great as all that? Presumably even 2 breast-feeds a day will benefit him?