Any advice for a friend please............2 1/2yr old..........

[HRHQueenOfQuotes]

still waking for night feeds and feeding during the day occasionaly too. She's not so worried about the first thing in the morning/last thing at night/or when he's tired....

BUT - she really would like the night feeding to stop. Any advice of how she can go about it????

Is she breastfeeding him? If so bit hard to do the old gradual diluting trick. She could maybe just say no, and offer water instead.

For us we had to just stop altogether, it only took a couple of nights of mild grumpiness - it was definitely a habit, rather than a genuine hunger.

hrh you stopped panicking yet?

yes - sorry forgot to say breastfed

I think at this age, the easiest thing would be to just refuse.

It'll probably mean a few nights of upheaval but the best way to tackle this sort of problem in a toddler/older baby (IMO) is to consistently say no and not to give in.

FWIW, I don't think that she has to withhold the feeds in the morning/evening. He is old enough to distinguish between middle of night and other times of day.

colditz - what about? My NVQ - yes.....thread earlier today (early hours of the morning) - no.

of course it doesn't help that he's still co-sleeping with them as well!

I slept in the spare room and didn't come out for a couple of nights, and left DP to give water in a bottle if he was thirsty! It wasn't as brutal as it sounds, as i suspected, it was seeing me that made him want to b/f - with me out of sight and sound, it wasn't an issue. Was still doing morning and evening.

x-posted, QoQ - it's the co-sleeping that does it! We just acted as if I was away for a w/e, iyswim. DS still had daddy....

hmm - might suggest that she sleeps on the sofa for a few nights and lets her DH cope with the little 'un.