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Infant feeding

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Ds had his last breast feed today, he doesn't even know it yet and I'm feeling a bit sad...

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bramblina · 04/09/2006 22:39

After reading some terribly sad posts on here tonight I feel I'm wallowing in a little too much of my own sadness but I can't help it!
Ds is 13 months old today, took his first steps yesterday and had his last breastfeed this morning..
I always said I would try to get to a year, I'm so proud I did, it has been a wonderful experience and I'm really quite proud.

Just wanted to tell someone, and dh is away.

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misdee · 04/09/2006 22:41

awww, you'll be fine.

dd3 is on 1 breastfeed a day now. she doesnt even ask for it in the evenings anyore, i still feel sad about that.

northender · 04/09/2006 22:44

Well done you! You've given him a great start.

3andnomore · 05/09/2006 11:21

Awww...it is sad when you come to that stage...not that it is any of my beeswax, but just wondering why you decided to stop now? You don't have to tell me off course...just curious
Brestfeeding is one of the things I do miss the most....not enough to have another Baby though, lol...3 is enough for us, lol!

DetentionGrrrl · 05/09/2006 15:37

I love bfeeding, so i can imagine it must be a sad time. As someone else said, you've given him a great start. Just think of all the other first time things you've got to look forward to over the next few years though!

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bramblina · 05/09/2006 19:32

Thanks everybody, it means a lot.
Misdee, I read your post a few months ago when you weren't sure if you would stop or not- obviously you didn't! Well done.
I don't mind you asking at all, it's a brilliant subject to discuss and I could talk about it all day. I always said I would like to feed to 1 as I feel when they're walking around, becoming more and more their own person IYSWIM I would like that to be the time they detach (sp?) in a way and get all their independanceand the other thing that worried me would be having a 2 or 3 year old and not being able to wean them off at all. So I guess I've just pulled the rug from under his feet really! For what he was getting it was hardly worth offering him every morning, though this morning when I just took him stright to the kitchen for his breakfast he seemed a bit confused, they really become aware at this age don't they, nothing gets past him. Though he had v last night and d this morning so maybe he has a bug and it's bothered him...here's hoping anyway!
Now I've got past day 1 I can safely say that having his hair cut at 6 months was actually far more traumatic!

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3andnomore · 05/09/2006 20:36

Bramblina...I can understand your sentiments in a way...alhtough, I never found that bf would make them more dependent or anything. My ds sort of selfweaned (at13 month) and I was sooo not ready , I had sort of thought he would be more 2 or 3 when he selfweans lol...but well, not much one can do if they pointblank refuse,is there!
But to come to a year is brilliant anyway! Hope it went all well today and not to many tears!

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bramblina · 05/09/2006 20:45

I don't really mean independance as such, just as in they are their own little person, walking around, though not to say they aren't before that, just a little different. Growing up I guess, and that's the hard part. maybe? No tears really but certainly confused, he did like it in the morning after a good sleep. Oh dear I'll have to stop this analysis as I'm beginning to feel guilty now!

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dazzlincaz · 05/09/2006 23:14

Bramblina - did you mean your ds had v (=vomiting?) last night and d (=diarrhoea?) this morning? If he has a tummy upset then maybe you may not want to give up altogether just yet as sometimes breastmilk is all a sensitive tummy can tolerate. Just a thought. Sounds like your ds is winding down his bfing anyhow, so don't think you will need to worry that he will want to feed a year from now Hope all is okay - don't feel guilty, you are doing great and not many babies get a whole year of breastfeeding even in these 'enlightened' times!

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bramblina · 07/09/2006 22:01

Thanks for that, dazzlincaz. I didn't get your post till tonight and actually the last 2 days have been fine. You were right with your decoding of d&v, I just can't spell the d word! I don't think he would have stayed off the food anyhow, he's a bit like a bottomless pit! Interesting though, for next time! I know what you mean about a year is a lot more than a lot of babies get, but from what others have said, it's an awful lot less, too. Anyway, thanks for your encouragement and support, it means a lot.I am proud, nonetheless sad, it's just another reminder of how quick the little ones grow up.. It's all good though...

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upandaway · 07/09/2006 22:29

well done bramblina, what a great mummy you are!

mears · 07/09/2006 22:40

Well done Bramblina - can't believe he is this old already .

My children all self weaned - the longest I fed was 15 months which was my last baby. If he doesn't ask to be fed then I would leave it at that. If he does go looking, don't feel you have to deny him. If you feel sad you might feel better that he stopped of his own accord IYSWIM? He might never look for a feed again though. You really have done so well.

AvaLou · 08/09/2006 13:13

Bramblina, I stopped bf my DD at 13 months recently too, and had a bit of up and down emotional turmoil about it. I am now feeling fine and, though it sounds selfish, am glad to have regained my body and am really looking forward to buying myself some nice tiny sheer bras and wearing all my old clothes again.
DD seems totally fine, although she wasn't taking much anyway so I think that made it easier.
Glad you are feeling more positive.

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bramblina · 08/09/2006 19:35

Upandaway, thanks,.
Mears, didn't think you knew of me or my ds, I kind of think of you and tiktok as "gods" in the breastfeeding dept of MN! I am honoured, thank you. And I think you're totally right- a few women I know said their los stopped all of a sudden and they just weren't ready, and I would feel sad, so thank you for putting a posistive slant on it!
Avalou, I'm with you on the underwear, it's a positive side I guess.
Thanks all once again, you are so fab. xxx

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