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Are there any positive portrayals of extended/natural term breastfeeding in fiction?

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Nondescriptsuburbanhousewife · 08/05/2014 15:53

Listening to Radio 4's book club atm, about The Slap - struck me that that book contained the only fictional representation of extended breastfeeding that I've ever encountered, and it was pretty negative - it struck me that he was portraying a parenting style that was basically too lazy to discipline, too lazy to wean - it was, I thought, about extended breastfeeding as a reflection of that mother's inadequacy.

Got me wondering about more positive images of breastfeeding toddlers/preschoolers in fiction - are there any?! Just curious.

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HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs · 08/05/2014 15:58

Emma Donoghue's Room. The 5yo boy is still BFing and I thought it was a really positive thing. Although it's a very strange situation - the mother and child are being held as hostages. And the mother does stop BFing by the end of the book. It's still not put across as weird/horrible in any way. It's a nice part of their relationship.

Sorry I've just re-read and it sounds like the exact opposite of what you want... Maybe you have to read the book!

Nondescriptsuburbanhousewife · 08/05/2014 16:07

Interesting, thanks! I'll look it up.

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OnaPromise · 08/05/2014 16:12

I jdidn't get past the firs couple of chapters of 'the Slap' for that very reason. I was also going to say the Room, it's the only one I can think of where it even features, let alone in a positive light. Although, no, it isn't exactly an ordinary situation.

Iamnotachewtoy · 08/05/2014 16:14

The Song of Solomon has a main character who was extended breast fed, but it's portrayed as something shameful and hidden if I remember rightly.

tiktok · 08/05/2014 16:42

The Room is very good on this. The little boy calls it 'some' eg 'I got a bit scared and then Mum gave me some and I felt better.'

In Bertolucci's film The Last Emporer (not fiction, but fictionalised) the Emporer is still breastfeeding from his wet nurse aged about 13. It stops when he gets married :) Presumably this is based on a book.

HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs · 08/05/2014 18:55

It features in Games of Thrones, with Robin Arryn, a five year old boy. Apparently it caused quite a stir when it was shown on the TV adaptation. It's a negative thing though - weak, clingy, self-centred child and mentally ill, delusional mother.

OnaPromise · 09/05/2014 13:53

I won't be watching Game of Thrones then. Arrggh, pushing that hackneyed stereotype is so lazy and crap!

drivenfromdistraction · 09/05/2014 14:02

I'm pretty sure someone is bf in 'Mrs Dalloway'. It's just a fleeting moment as Clarissa walks through the park. Very ordinary and natural.

jaggythistle · 09/05/2014 22:37

In the Game of Thrones books I got the impression that bf at least into toddlerhood was normal. It is mentioned a lot along with the wet nurses looking after the young lordlings. :)

The young Robert Arryn is very much a product of his mother's overprotective nature and the bf is only a small part of it. It was pretty much the only bf mentioned in the TV show I think.

NooMamma · 10/05/2014 03:51

This is something i've wondered about too. I read Room recently and i liked the way full term breastfeeding was portrayed (although, as mentioned above, the mother and child are in an awful situation). The only other books i can think of are historical fiction type books. These often have references to 2 year olds being breastfed. I can't think of specific examples but i think it is mentioned in passing in a lot of Philippa Gregory books.

Seatedhere · 10/05/2014 06:41

If you read or rather listen to the end of The Slap you might find your view of the motivation behind her parenting and, by extension, the extended breast feeding changes. I know mine did.

I thought it a very, very clever book. We all judge on the small bit we know of a persons life - but if we are privy to the complicated circumstances and secrets that bought them to that place then our view could change. (This isn't a plot spoiler - I think all the characters had behaviours/incidents we judged in certain ways that when their personal perspective was examined may or may not have altered our initial view of that behaviour).

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