4mo has to be swayed to feed

[Mirrhi]

DS is 4mo and often during the day the only way I can get him to have a good feed (he's ebf) is to stand up and sway him from side to side whilst he feeds. He will start to feed with me sat down but then pull off and start crying. I know I have a fast let down and have tried various things including expressing a bit first, feeding lying back/down etc, but nothing seems to help. However if I stand and sway him he calms right down and will feed for a good while.

Any ideas why this could be? Does it have any affect on your flow or is it just calming for him? He's getting heavy now and it's not ideal, especially if yhis is going to be a long term thing!
Thanks.

Forgot to add, if he is sleepy and during the night he's fine and will calmly take a good long feed with me sat still.

My dd is a bit.like this, needs to be rpcked,bounced and sang to at times! Also 4mo. I think they are just so distracted by the world and need to have their attention held on feeding sometimes.
Nap nursing works well for us too

With my 2 by that age I could only get them to have good feeds when lying on the bed together before naps. They were just far too intrigued by everything and would frequently pull away etc, then want to nurse again 10 mins later.

I weaned at 4 and 5 months (both times suggested by their paediatrician and dietician before anyone criticises).

DC2 is now 8 months and we are now down to morning/night feeds and a bottle in the afternoon.

Meant to say once weaning commenced and I wasn't their main source of nutrition I found bf a lot more enjoyable.

Having a 4 month old pull off/on, grab my skin, nipple, hair, shawl, every time they fed was getting a bit tiresome!

I had exactly this issue with DD. I have no idea why! I think partly let-down speed but also she was really distractable so if I was up swaying she could see more than if I sat down. It drove me potty, not least cos she popped off all the time, so I was endlessly flashing my nipples in public. Like you, she was fine at night

It went away soon enough. I think by about 6 months or so the shouty/standing/swaying/screaming phase had passed.

It's good to know it's not just my boy! I've started to feel really bad about it, I see everyone else feeding and their babies seem so content and happy, whereas DS is distressed and wound up unless I'm stood swaying him. Fingers crossed it'll improve soon with him too...,

I felt exactly the same! No snuggly daytime feeds for us at that age! DD had tongue tie too (snipped thrice, kept on reattaching) so I think that increased her thrashiness.

Hang in there. We're still going at 12.5 months, and I'm glad I persisted through that stage.

You could try feeding in a sling, might help with the weight issue. Agree with pp though, feeding 4 mo olds is a PITA. Have bought a huge nursing cover to see if that will help with DS, not tried it yet though.

Don't worry, I have no plans to stop BFing, want to continue for as long as possible. I love his nighttime feeds though, when he's all chilled and snuggly. Makes the number of wake ups manageable!
A sling may be an idea, though he hated it last time I tried it but that was a long time ago. Will have to try it again.