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About to do the last bf (tomorrow morning), any advice, support gratefully received

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Monkeybar · 27/08/2006 17:01

My ds is now 13 months, and for some time he has had two bottles and one bf per day. The morning bf is just really an excuse for a cuddle and a bit longer half asleep for me, as I've so far spent 2 nights away for work and dh forgot to give a bottle the first time and ds wasn't bothered. I've got to spend five nights away in 3 weeks time , and know that I have to drop this feed and hopefully get over the sore boobs bit by then. TBH I only kept it going to give ds some continuity while I went back to work and he went to nursery, as he's a really good eater and has 3 meals a day plus the bottles plus snacks. And he bit me on both sides this morning which he hasn't done for AGES, so I've decided to call it a day, although that makes me feel a little bit sad.

Should I offer him a bottle, or some water or nothing instead? Am I likely to get sore and put on even more weight (still a stone over pre baby weight).

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Clayhead · 27/08/2006 17:06

Monkeybar, I stopped feeding dd at 12 months and never got sore at all so it's possible not to be (same with ds at 18 months).

Persoanlly, I never used bottles, just went straight to cups.

I never put on weight when I stopped.

Sorry you're feeling sad and hope it goes well. You can still do the cuddles

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Monkeybar · 27/08/2006 17:11

I hope I'm as lucky as you and avoid soreness. At least I can take my choice of pain relief drug without fear of conatminating ds! Not sure how long he'd stay still for a cuddle in the mornings, though - he's quite a cuddly chap during the day, but likes to get on and just be doing in the mornings

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lilymolly · 27/08/2006 17:15

Hi I gave up after 17weeks, so no where near as long as you (well done!) but I had the week from hell after I gave up, tears every day- I think it was the hormones and the guilt, so maybe be prepared for that? Hope its ok thought. Very impressed you have done this long

Clayhead · 27/08/2006 17:18

I'm not sure about his but I think it tends to be easier to give up when you are down to the one feed a day stage as you have gradually withdrawn over several months rather than going from several feeds a day to nothing.

I am prepared to be told different if I am wrong though!

moondog · 27/08/2006 17:19

Why doyou have to say this is theday Igive up?
Why not try thedon't offer,don't refuse way.

With mine,they tailedoff to feeding onceaday,then once every couple of days and so on.

I never used bottleseither,just cups of water orjuice.Didn't give them any other milk either.

Clayhead · 27/08/2006 17:21

Yes, I did that too. I don't know when my last bf was.

Maybe because Monkeybar has the deadline of the work trip away but then you could always start up again after that, couldn't you?

hollyhobbie · 27/08/2006 18:03

I just did this last week.
DD, who's 16months, was still being BFed before her sleeps.
She went onto a cup of milk (and a story!) before her nap and I still BFed at nighttime for a week.
After the week, she just went onto milk in a cup before the night sleep too.
It was effortless - I had built it up in my head to be such a big deal, but DD didn't even notice, or hasn't acted like she has...
I didn't get sore either. TBH the reason I decided to stop is that I'm 8weeks PG and couldn't imagine myself BFing both a baby and a toddler!

I felt sad too. And I confess I had a little cry after the last feed. But within 4 days DH could finally put her down for her naps, and that was bliss!

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Monkeybar · 27/08/2006 20:12

Had considered the don't offer don't refuse approach, but this work trip is going to be upsetting enough for both me and ds and I felt that if he's missing his mummy and not getting a morning bf, it'd be somehow worse than just me being absent IYSWIM.
Hollyhobbie - I'm with you on that one. I can't understand how people manage to do this (is it called tandem feeding?). I don't understand how the milk composition can be right for both a newborn and a toddler!

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hollyhobbie · 28/08/2006 18:56

I guess the milk composition would be for the newborn? I imagine that the toddler would get more comfort from it than nutrition at that age. Though I don't actually KNOW that, just my supposition.
The thing that I couldn't figure out, was how I would physically be able to feed DD when I was heavily PG - how would she fit around the bump?!

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