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11mo ds has abruptly stopped bf :-(

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Gemdar · 17/04/2014 21:32

Sorry v long post as don't know if its a nursing strike or I just need to accept it and move on... Don't know what to do :-(

Ds stopped bf last weekend, with the exception of a little feed on Monday morning his last feed was Friday bedtime.

He was sick during the night but didn't wake or wake for a feed (usually feeds once during night) and didn't really feed in morning. This is a first as has only ever slept through once before.

Saturday he was grumpy and by eve had the start of a cold. At bedtime feed (he dropped his daytime feeds at 7 months) he started to feed but then coughed so stopped and couldn't get him back on. He woke during night but wouldn't feed and wouldn't feed again in the morning and his cough and cold had really kicked in.

Sunday bedtime and night he wouldn't feed but did have a little early feed on Monday morning and seemed content and smiled.

Monday bedtime he was still full of cold but chirpier so expected him to feed but instead he just bit me - didn't attempt to latch just repeated biting. Feel terrible as kept saying no but think I may have said it too aggressively and have read this frightens them off so think this is my fault but he was just grinning at me every time he did it and didn't seem upset.

He hasn't bf at all since and just bites me if he even attempts to go near me. Tried getting to feed when sleepy, after having calpol and teething gel. Even tried letting him bite me a few times to see if he'd feed after.

He loves his food, eats three good meals a day with snacks and drinks water. His appetite for food hasn't been affected in the past week. He's a big boy almost on 98th centile.

I have such mixed emotions as I had been thinking about stopping (but ds doesn't take a bottle or a cup of any type of milk) but I feel heartbroken :-( Mainly selfishly for me as feel like its been an unhappy break-up - as daft as that sounds. I miss my contented snuggling boy and didn't get to enjoy our last feed.

So if you've get to the end of my epic post what do you think I should do?

Keep offering? He doesn't seem to come near now so any suggestions to solve it? Will my milk have gone now? I did express but was getting less and less...

Or

Accept that despite being ill he's chosen to stop himself and just keep offering milk in a cup in hope he takes it?

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Gemdar · 18/04/2014 07:32

Clearly just needed to write a mamouth post as ds started feeding again overnight and has fed twice without any biting... Very odd...

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Novia · 18/04/2014 07:41

They make liars of you! It's like when you book a doctor's appointment and the problem has gone by the time you get there! :)

Glad he's back on. Maybe you could start thinking about starting to offer cow's milk in a sippy cup to get him used to the taste for when he does transition. I offered in tandem for a few weeks as DD started feeding less and less and eventually she only had the cup morning and night.

Novia · 18/04/2014 07:41

They make liars of you! It's like when you book a doctor's appointment and the problem has gone by the time you get there! :)

Glad he's back on. Maybe you could start thinking about starting to offer cow's milk in a sippy cup to get him used to the taste for when he does transition. I offered in tandem for a few weeks as DD started feeding less and less and eventually she only had the cup morning and night.

Gemdar · 18/04/2014 14:36

Thanks Novia thats a good idea, will give it a go...

When did you offer the cup of milk? Before/after bfing or completely seperately eg with brekkie?

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Novia · 18/04/2014 15:34

Hiya - I gave the milk pre-evening BF and fed her after. Then I gave her milk at random times of the day so that she started to get a taste for it. Then for a while she had cow's milk morning and night and I fed her after each. She stopped being that bothered though and when I stopped, she didn't look for it anymore (I stopped at one year).

Gemdar · 18/04/2014 21:13

Thanks Novia will try your approach and hopefully next time it'll be a 'joint' decision to stop :-)

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