i am giving up.

[misdee]

dd3 had a feed a 6am. thats been it all day. its going well now, but i just feel so sad.

Why are you giving up if it is going well now? Don't understand your message Misdee. You could continue with one morning feed a day if you wanted. If you feel sad are you not as ready as you thought?

oh hun, did you decide in yourself to do it or do you feel you have to?

is dd3 coping wtih it?

i mean she is coping with it well today. before today it has been awful.

i feel sad as i know we wont have another child after this, its like the end. think i will carry on with the morning one.

How old is your dd3?

she is 18months.

since peter has come homei have been feeling stressed and i hate sayign thsio, but b/feeding became a chore, and i wasnt enjoying it.

Awww I know what you mean. I b/f ds til he was 17 mths but he asked for milk in a cup one night so I figured that was it. But it had stopped being the lovely, snuggly last-thing-at-night thing that it used to be and was more me trying to get to the recommended 2 years come hell or high water. That wasn't a good enough reason looking back now.

Is there any way you can keep bedtime snuggly without the feed so dd still gets mummy time (as much as is possible in your circumstances). If she's getting fidgety and distracted she's probably self-weaning anyway. It's sad to think it's the end of an era, but that also means the beginning of a new independence for dd3 and a new way of you doing a special bedtime for her.

we cuddled up on my bed with a cup of milk.

Sounds good to me

awww, bless.

well done for getting to 18 months. that's fab.

awww, bless.

well done for getting to 18 months. that's fab.

I think that you've done amazingly well, esp given your circumstances. I understand why you feel sad though, esp if she will be your last lo.

Misdee
Don't feel bad! You did GREAT!

You've got a lot on your plate.

Your daughter is coping well.

If you feel it's time to move on, then do so.

18 months is brilliant.

Well done!

owwwww, my boobs are like hard rocks. express or not? dd3 wont take it from a cup or bottle though, so it will be dumped.

I'm no expert but maybe just express a bit so you don't get engorged?
How many feeds were you doing before you decided just to do the morning one btw? Just interested.
Well done to getting to 18 months. thats fab. My dd is 12 months and still bf. I'd love to do as well as you.

i have been cutting her back over the last few months, we have mainly been doing morning, nap and bedtime feeds for the last month. but if i dont feed her during the day then she doesnt seem to nap, and she sleeps better at night.

Does she want the bedtime one still? Can she go to sleep without it? If she can thats a huge help, it must be hard cutting that one out if they need it to go to bed.
I feed the same times as you said and I think if I wanted or dd wanted to cut back the afternoon one would be the first to go. She doesn't have that one everyday now actually. Most days though.

Sorry, just read back and saw that she had a cup of milk at bedtime. Its good that she will take it in a cup. I think I would feel sad like you even though I agree that you've done so well getting this far and getting her to accept a cup etc.

i introduced a cup for water when she was 3months old. with my older 2 i left it too late and they were a nightmare to get off bottles. dd3 doesnt really like bottles.

she is funny, she will take moo-juice from a cup, but not EBM.

cabbage leafs are good express a tiny tiny bit off and a very hot bath may help and well done for the 18months thats fabxx

If your boobs are sore take a couple of Brufen. You could express for comfort but you don't want to do too much or your body will just produce more.
Well done for feeding for so long - if it makes you feel better then continue with the morning feed. That was my last feed to go when I tailed off - except for DD who self weaned after I shouted at her when she bit me at 15 months. I was sad for a longtime because i knew she was my last.
If you are certain it is over just be proud of you achievement. The sadness will fade eventually.

Hi misdee, How are you today?
I was thinking about your thread in the night. Its made me think about when I'll have to stop bf. I hope you are feeling happier today.

big feed this morning, bed after a cup again. finding it easier now.

Hi,thats good. I'll be able to sleep better now!
Are your boobs less sore?