Exclusive breastfeeding

[Emmas37]

My baby is 16 weeks today I breastfed exclusively. Which is working well, I breastfed my other two exclusively and wanted the same benefits for baby no.3 I'm an experienced breast feeding mother!! However baby's dad took baby to visit his mum who gave my baby another baby's bottle -his mums foster baby's bottle of formula ... -Without me knowing .. I smelt his mums perfume and noticed my baby was a lot drowsier than usual so I guessed and asked, they never told me! I'm upset they fed my baby against my wishes ...they think he's the dad it was their right!! I think a mother and baby has the right to breastfeed exclusively .. They don't understand does anyone else think this wrong and is a matter of trust!

I don't mean because of FF/BF, but I expect she wont see the harm in sneaky bits of food.

It bloody annoys me.

It's worrying how some people make decisions and judgements when the have no right to make them or have correct and current information

I think your feelings are totally justifiable and, as others have said, maybe you need to explain to your husband that, although the baby is both of yours that you have worked hard to exclusively breastfeed and he needs to understand how much this means to you. I think husbands can feel a little left out when you EBF but they need to appreciate that this is a relatively short period of time compared to all the years ahead etc. As for your mother-in-law - it is really not her business to be feeding your baby. Your husband really should be taking the lead there and respecting your wishes to EBF. As a one-off I'm sure no harm was done (as BF established although you may have felt engorged if baby then went a long period before wanting next feed which is bad enough) but I think you need to make is absolutely clear that this should not be allowed to happen again. Good luck.

I would have been livid and he wouldnt be taking baby anywhere by himself for quite a while (esp as its 3rd baby and not like he didnt know).
Someone i know left her baby with her parents and they fed her solids without asking (before the age of 6m) so also parents missed 1st childs first day weaning.
I think ff/bf is predominantly the mums choice
Imagine if it had been .. Oh they were crying we gave them paracetamol and hadnt told you that it could be very serious